Just as the fetishes and kinks in a BDSM relationship are unlimited, the dynamics of a BDSM relationship are too. BDSM can be something extremely intimate between lifelong partners or just a disconnected act of love between two people who think they know each other but actually don’t. If a domme and submissive want to not just have a BDSM relationship but actually want to create an intimate connection they must be willing to open their bodies, minds, and souls for each other.

The domme needs to understand that she needs to create a scene where the submissive sees himself as safe and it satisfies the need for power exchange of both the partners. A domme needs to do everything she must to create trust between herself and her submissive which means the role of a domme involves taking care of the submissive while also working towards total control, only possible if the submissive lets go of all the fears in his mind. If both the submissive and domme can create an intimate connection there’s nothing more special than a BDSM relationship.

Healthy Loving
When a submissive and dominatrix let go of all their ego and strive to really connect with each other the resulting experience is immensely empowering for both. For being intimate with your partner you need to first be vulnerable. When two people open up to each other completely the relationship is taken to a new level of trust and honesty. In a BDSM relationship, the submissive trust that the domme will not hurt her and the domme knows the submissive will submit to her no matter what.

Increased Intimacy
Intimacy and sex are often confused with one another but intimacy is actually different than sexual activity. We have a need for intimacy since we are children when we need and crave the love and care of our parents. As we grow, the need for intimacy remains there but the meaning changes. Intimacy can be simply be defined as being close to someone and letting your guards down to allow them into your world. It is the ability to accept what your partner has to offer or wants and share your needs with them. Something as mundane as communicating honestly with your partner can also be classified as intimacy.

When it comes to BDSM, there is a certain risk involved in almost every activity. To trust your partner to be able to take care of your and accept that risk of physical danger just because you trust your domme points to a high level of trust between a couple. This, in turn, contributes to an increased sense of intimacy which then improves the relationship.

Improved Fidelity
Anyone can just get into a relationship, the real challenge is to maintain a relationship and maintaining BDSM relationships is often quite hard. It requires open communication at all times and constantly keeping a check on your partner to see if their needs are being met. Before every scene preparation is needed and after each aftercare is required but that doesn’t mean BDSM relationships do not give back to you; they do! Firstly, the increased the sense of intimacy in a couple and bring them closer by honest communication. Even a simple discussion about a new kink you want to try can bring your closer to your submissive. Constantly caring for each other and taking in to account any needs that have to be met results in improved fidelity and faithfulness.

Reduces Stress
Life is stressful and there are pressures of all kinds in our everyday lives. People opt different methods to reduce stress and one way of doing that is through some sort of entertainment or indulging in fantasy. Indulging yourself in BDSM is both entertaining and acting out your fantasies which is why there are hundreds of examples where people who are in dominant positions in everyday lives that a break from all the decision making and let their dommes make decisions while they act as their submissives.