Dating a BDSM loving dominatrix or not, first dates do not always go as planned because despite lots of preparation some of us get nervous on the spot resulting in blunders. It is understandable why one is nervous and feels pressure on the first date; because you’re meeting someone you don’t know very well and you’ve to impress them. Are your wondering why all submissive friends are in a long-term relationship with their dommes while you can’t get past the first date? Don’t be so hard on yourself. First off, you need to realize that relationships and first dates are two very different things. In a relationship, you can make mistakes every once in a while and still talk to one another on how to get over it, but if you make an error on the first date you might have blown the only chance you had with a certain potential partner. Here we’ve listed some tips we thing a submissive should consider when meeting a dominatrix on a first date.

Play Or No Play
Everybody knows power exchange and play is why you both are seeking BDSM Date partner but should you indulge in play on the first date? Firstly, keep in mind that you don’t need to do it if you’re aren’t comfortable. Your domme should be sensible enough to realize that you as a submissive are in no way obligated to obey them right from the start. That being said, sometimes when BDSM date partners have extremely great chemistry they tend to understand and fit into their roles automatically. However, it does not happen very often which is why you both should consider this first date as a chance to get to know each other better.

See if you can talk about things other than BDSM and power exchange because if you do start a relationship you wouldn’t always indulge in a scene. Also, try and obey her or offer her your submission with little gestures such as pouring her a glass of wine. You domme will instantly pick up on what you’re trying to do and is she is intelligent enough to know that BDSM dating is more than spanking and chains, these little gestures will excite her.

Leave Your Assumptions At Home
Don’t even assume you should pay the entire bill because you’re the submissive and should do everything from the start. The first date does not require you to get in your roles right away, rather it should be a casual experience. Your domme won’t like it if you force yourself as a submissive on her. You’d be better off defining your limits before you show up at the date. Take mental notes of what you’ll and what you won’t talk about and why. Also, instead of discussing what you both might be trying out in a relationship, it is better to talk about any kinky experiences you both have had in the past. This will not only get the conversation going but also help you figure out how much you have in common when it comes to kinks and fetishes.

Don’t Try Too Hard
They know you’re their submissive, don’t get too overboard with acting like a submissive on the first date. Be confident of who you are, because if you aren’t comfortable in your skin it will only have a negative impact on things. The lack of confidence will show in the way you talk and act. You’ll start doubting if what you said was right or compliment your date too much. Both these scenarios would make a really bad impression. Remember, your dominatrix wants someone who will submit to her when she desires, not someone who is already bent over right from the get-go. Also, don’t talk too much about yourself or else you’ll make them feel they’re not needed. Create a positive vibe and answer all questions with positive answers.

Being Needy Is The Worst
You’d think calling her a mistress or talking about how you would want to settle down with your domme for life would impress her but you’re wrong. What if she doesn’t want to the things you’re telling her you would want? Even she does want to hear you call her your Mistress, she wouldn’t hear this from a man she doesn’t even know yet! You may look needy not because you’re desperate but just because you’re coming on to her too strongly. Don’t get into any role on a first date. The purpose of the first date is to judge if there is enough chemistry and compatibility for you both to meet on a second date.