Similar BDSM fetishes are definitely important for a BDSM relationship to flourish but kink dating is more than just sexual compatibility. It is a no-brainer than compatibility is important for a happy and long-lasting relationship. Sexual compatibility is when the couples have similar sexual desires, needs, and turn-ons. In a BDSM relationship, it means having similar kinks and fetishes. BDSM couples are together because the partners have figured out that sex is a path of self-exploration for that which is why they seek a compatible dominant and submissive to be with.

This is why sexual compatibility is crucial for a lasting BDSM relationship, however, a successful relationship demands more than just that. There are other factors that contribute to a happier and healthier relationship.

Trust
Trust is important in vanilla relationships, but it takes on a whole new level in a BDSM relationship. Without trust, a kinky relationship would eventually become boring. If the submissive is not able to trust their partner, they will not submit completely. A submissive needs to trust that whatever the dominant is doing would not hurt them. Similarly, a dominant wouldn’t be able to function well if she knows a the submissive doesn’t trust them.

A dominant has to earn the trust of her submissive and that is done over time in a BDSM relationship. Being dominant is a great responsibility as you have to care for your submissive needs while fulfilling yours. A submissive needs to know that their dominant has both of their interests in mind. When trust is broken in a BDSM relationship, it is very hard to get it back. This is why BDSM partners decide on a safe word for the submissive which is to be used in a situation where the submissive feels a certain activity is too much to handle for them.

Passion
The passion does not only denote being passionate while having sex or indulging in BDSM fetishes. That is needed too, but here what we mean by the word passion is the need to keep things going and sit down to talk in rough times. A BDSM relationship is built on the desire to explore each other’s sexuality and it can get really difficult to survive in such a relationship if a submissive and partner don’t take care of each other’s needs. Partners would only do that if they have enough passion to keep themselves close to one another.

Loyalty is another aspect that is only present while kink dating where a dominant or submissive genuinely cares about keeping their partner around. Even in the absence of a dominant, the submissive is expected to never get out of their role. Specific terms and conditions are agreed to at the start of a BDSM relationship and partners always abide by them.

BDSM is essentially about pushing yourself to the next limit. It can only happen when your partner knows that you aren’t going anywhere. Trust, loyalty, and passion to explore more can take any BDSM relationship to newer heights. Sex never gets boring when kink dating and to keep it that way pushing each other to the next level is imperative.

Communication
There is nothing more important than communicating honestly in a BDSM relationship. How else are you going to make your partner aware about what you like and what you don’t? Communication is present in every relationship, but just like trust, it takes a whole new role in a BDSM arrangement. Only communicating openly about your sexual and BDSM fetish needs can help you get them fulfilled.

In addition to communicating desires, communicating boundaries and limits is also equally important. With honest communication, partners can also deal with and get through rough patches. Holding a grudge or hoping they would guess what you want will get you nowhere in a BDSM relationship. Sitting to talk, outline interests and limits is the only way. If one can’t communicate openly, he or she is probably not ready to be in a BDSM relationship.

Do They Bring Out The Best In You?
Yes, the sex is great, the power exchange is first class and you are both sticking to your roles very well, but how do you act around your partner is important. Focusing on your reactions to a dominant’s commands can be a powerful indicator of if you’re happy, just satisfied or unhappy in a relationship with them. Only we can know when our minds get frustrated. How we act around our partners can lead us to the next step in a relationship.

If something is bothering you, it is your duty to sit down with your BDSM partner to resolve it. As stated earlier, without open communication any BDSM arrangement would not last long. If you feel your partner brings out the worst in your, it may be time to let them go. Moreover, if you’ve talked to them but it still hasn’t had any effect on your relationship, it is a clear indication to find another partner for yourself who gives importance to what you want.