If you’re reading this chances are you are not new to BDSM. You are either a submissive or a dominant who has been into BDSM singles dating since long and now wants to know what switching is all about. BDSM is vast and has got uncountable dimensions to it; more than one can imagine. Today we take a look at switching which means when someone is neither a hardcore submissive nor a full-time dominant and he may switch his role to be dominant or submissive on any given day. When we talk about BDSM relationships, couples are made up of two beings, one of whom is the one who likes to surrender their control to their partner and the other who takes control. But there is a third kind who opts for a middle ground, and that is what a switch person is.

Top or Bottom Leaning Singles
A common misconception about switches is that they are half dominant and half submissive which is not true. Even one someone is a switch they do have their preferences or choices regarding the dominant and submissive roles. A top-leaning switch is someone who is generally a dominant person but sometimes craves a little flogging. On the other hand, a bottom-leaning switch is a submissive most of the time but enjoys changing the power dynamics in the relationship once in a while to become dominant.

Singular or Multiple Scenes
The act of switching can take place in two ways. BDSM singles and couples may take to each other and agree in advance that one of them will switch roles during a scene they are about to perform. Safety and communication are integral parts of a BDSM relationship and while their importance doesn’t lessen when switching. Both of the partners have to get to know each other better and know what their limits are performing any BDSM act. Switching from dominant to submissive roles or vice versa one after the other can be a really demanding task which is why keeping your safety on top is always important.

A submissive or dominant single has to be able to say when something becomes too much to handle. Similarly, the importance of aftercare cannot be stressed upon enough. Aftercare could mean staying close and talking to each other for one couple and giving each other necessary space for another couple.

Another way switching can take place is one partner decide to not switch roles within a single scene but keep the dominant or submissive part of yourself for a later scene. The switch can act as a dominant in one scene and a submissive in another.

To be Switch – It’s a Feeling
Even when someone is a switch, switching between roles does not happen because of a set schedule. It is only when one feels that they need to explore their other side is when they want to switch. Some people have been dominant since they started BDSM dating, but have always felt that a part of them wants to try being submissive. This feeling gets so strong at one point that fulfilling that need becomes inevitable. Similarly, for submissives, a need for being dominant can grow over time.

Switching is beneficial in many ways. It gives you chance to see your relationship and roles from a perspective you never could have before. Being a submissive who switches to being dominant from time to time can help you understand what language arouses the other most and what are some crucial touch points. Learning about dominance can help you be a great submissive. You get to know the desires and likes of a dominant and later when you’re submissive, you are not only thinking as a submissive but a dominant too. Hence switching allows you to understand yours and your partner’s role better while also opening you both to countless possibilities.