Becoming a domme is the greatest decision you’ll make in your life if you love to be on top in your relationships, like BDSM and want to incorporate loads of kinks in your life. Becoming a domme is nourishing and empowering and if you are wondering what life is like being a dominatrix, it is nothing like living in dungeons and dark places and pleasuring yourself from beating people up. The dommes are not always leather-clad and do not go around intimidating or insulting people. If you are someone who is looking to become a dominatrix, read on as we bust some myths and list tips on how to become a domme.

A Complete Lifestyle
A dominatrix is not a prostitute and it is not all about sex; people who say that have never been in a relationship with a domme. The focus in a domme-submissive BDSM relationship is on taking control of your submissive’s life and trying out your common kinks together which may or may not include sex. Being a domme and submissive is about adopting a complete lifestyle where your submissive serves you at every opportunity and a domme can choose to be intimate with him or not include sex altogether.

A Domme’s Most Important Tool
If you are thinking your most important tools as a dominatrix will be whips, blindfolds, and toys, you are wrong. A domme’s most effective tools are her brain, voice or simple gestures. Imagine moving a finger and your domme dropping down to the floor or carry out a certain action you’ve associated with that particular gesture. Such is the power of a dominatrix! A domme is a master at psychological techniques and takes care of her submissive’s safety.

Accept & Explore Your Kinks
Contrary to what some believe, BDSM is not for sick people and if you are into BDSM don’t be worried you are no different than rest of the population. What is different between you and your friends is that you’ve decided to accept your kinks and fetishes and explore what you truly want. Studies have shown people with an interest in BDSM have more satisfactory sex lives and even have a higher IQ.

Similarly, the guys who turn up at a domme’s door are not perverts. Submissives are normal men who are looking to explore a new dimension to themselves or get rid of some work stress. They are polite, respectful men who see you as someone with whom they can share their interests with. Some submissives very wealthy men who get fed up with making each and every decision in their daily lives and being with a dominatrix is a relaxing activity for them. With a domme in presence, they can give up all of their control and be free.