Do you want things to heat up in your sex life with the help of some dominance and submission or are maybe already involved in a BDSM relationship and amp it up a bit further? If so then you go start doing just this by experimenting with the dynamics of your power play by bringing power exchange into your everyday routine.

When we say power play, it means two people who have come together consensually and have decided that one will be dominant in a relationship and the other will be submissive. However, it is to be made clear that being dominant in a relationship does not mean that you’re the only one enjoying power; submissives enjoy the power exchange which is why the dommes have a great responsibility of taking care of their sub’s needs. Both partners are equally important to a BDSM relationship to succeed.

When you’ve finally decided to spice things up a bit and take bondage and power play out of the bedroom, a domme and submissive should know that this kind of play can become ongoing or can even be performed at certain times of the day or the week. These BDSM rituals are often referred to as protocols. We have loads of protocols we refer to every day in our life. Often our rules and habits, that seems perfectly normal to us, can seem quirky to others and BDSM protocols are no different. However, another important thing to consider is that the bondage protocols you decide upon should excite both the dominant and the submissive.

Why Bondage Outside the Bedroom?
Making bondage and kink a habit can make your routine life extra sexy but keeping up with your decided bondage roles can require a lot of dedication. It is, however, a great way to increase the range of control you have on your submissive and if a submissive and domme are successfully able to integrate kink in their everyday life, the benefits can be massive. If you’re just starting out with bondage in routine and feel that it isn’t something your submissive can adapt to overnight, you can set these bondage protocols to be temporary at first.

Equality
When deciding on how bondage can be part of your everyday life, it is key to forget any existing power dynamics that you have in your BDSM relationship. Furthermore, it is only the dominant who should alone be defining the bondage protocols, the submissive should also be providing his insights and the bondage protocols should serve both partners and their power dynamic. Whatever you agree upon should also help make you feel closer and trust each other better.

Trial Period
As we said earlier, if you’re unsure about it all, you must keep it temporary at first and set up a trial period. After the trial period is over, you should evaluate how things went. Were the tasks completed and id you both enjoy it? Would you like to continue?

Whatever Works For You
In BDSM relationships, there seldom are right or wrong choices. What works for another couple might not work for you and vice versa. Just as fetishes and kinks can vary from person to person, bondage protocols can too. What might seem odd to you, might be you submissive biggest bondage fantasy. Communicate openly and honestly and find out what excites you as a couple.