Chastity and tease and denial are possibly some of the most intense and sexiest experiences for both Dommes and submissives. BDSM is vast, great and has all that can make a satisfy both a dominant and submissive. However, while discussing BDSM, the perspective of the dominant often gets ignored. What is that a domme enjoys in a BDSM relationship? How do they satisfy themselves while taking care of a submissive’s needs? Most of the time we are so caught up in discussing the submissive that we forget all about what the domme needs to enjoy themselves as much as the submissive does.

When a domme first enters the BDSM world, the first thing they learn is that they are inherently sadistic. The come to the realization that they enjoy inflicting pain and the other person enjoys it too. However, since they have had no experience of being a sadistic, this discovery that they actually like inflicting pain on others is a big one. Often times, domes have reported that they find it difficult to allow them to indulge in a sadistic role. They find themselves in a conflict between their vanilla and newly found dominant role. Everything in the BDSM lifestyle is all about psychological gains and a domme finds themselves in a psychological conflict right from the start. But this psychological side of BDSM is what makes it worth it!

Chastity, Tease and Denial
Chastity, Tease and Denial, all three have a direct effect on the submissive and are controlled by the domme. While the submissive sure enjoys being denied the privilege of jacking off at their will by someone who they’ve consensually outsourced their control to, have you ever wondered why and how do dommes enjoy the kink in such activities? To understand this better, let us first look at what chastity, tease and denial entail.

A higher percentage of men, when introduced to the idea of chastity and denial, tend to shy away and avoid discussing these because, well, who would want to give up the privilege of satisfying themselves sexually whenever they want. However, chastity and denial are practiced by dommes and submissives all around the world and only those who educate themselves about these are able to understand why these activities are liked and practiced the world over.

Although there is no one reason as to why one would include a specific activity in their BDSM lifestyle, there specifically are two angles of looking at chastity, tease and denial – those which justify these kinks to a great extent. The first one is fairly simple but can easily be overlooked. Once you stop ejaculating whenever you want, something you have always taken for granted will suddenly have an immense value for you. You will actually be looking forward to your domme’s permission to do so. When you finally get the chance, it will make for an amazing experience for both partners in a BDSM relationship. You will look to maximize by your experience by getting as involved as you can.

Just like any other kink or fetish in a BDSM relationship, tease and denial are also mutually beneficial. BDSM is all about control and protocols even when your partner isn’t present, especially when they are not present. When your BDSM partner is not with you, you can be easily tempted to let go of all those terms you decided and do whatever you want, a chastity device makes sure you don’t do that and remain true to your promise. Having a chastity device on her submissive assures the domme that her submissive has reserved everything for them. It increases trust which is the number one catalyst to help your relationship grow and last longer. However, that is just one aspect of why dommes enjoy these kinks in BDSM dating. Let’s take a look at why being a domme in a BDSM relationship is as cherish-able an experience as any.

What It’s Like Being a Domme?
Being a domme is a unique and overpowering experience. As a domme, you are highly aware of how a submissive is reacting. Your duty is to take hints and interpret the actions, moves, and sounds and change your strategy in between the scene. Everything else around you becomes irrelevant – this is how strong BDSM is!

Inflicting something as negative as pain on someone and watching them enjoy to please you is one of the greatest sights for a dominant. BDSM lets a submissive and dominant connect like very few people are able to, but that’s not easy if there’s zero coordination. It requires a lot of effort from both the submissive to give and to take control, and this can only be done when there’s trust between the two of them. The domme has to be able to decipher all the signs the submissive sends their way and decide on what they want.

A Journey of Mutual Sexual Exploration
In normal/vanilla relationships, there comes a time when you get bored from the same old sexual routine. How many couples do we know who’ve complained that there’s nothing new in their sex life? A lot! This is where BDSM comes in and opens blocked doors to sexual exploration together and allow to satisfy each other with means greater than those that couples in vanilla relationships.

Along with the physical aspect, there is a strong psychological aspect to everything a domme does as well. A domme knows and enjoys the fact that their submissive is reaching and even surpassing their limits to satisfy their dominant. Once you get involved in the BDSM lifestyle, ordinary dating becomes boring. The feeling of having authority over a person is captivating.

However, regardless of the perks that come with being a domme, it is a great responsibility as well. There is a fine line between using the power the right away and abusing your power as a dominant – a domme has to be always mindful of this fine margin. Some of would think that with this responsibility comes stress, but that is not the case – in fact keeping the balance between what you want and what your submissive wants are what keeps your sadistic soul rightly fed. Everything, from your expectations to their needs, is decided at the start which is why there are no confusions and fear of things getting out of hand.