One of the most asked questions by people who are interested in dating a dominatrix is why do Dommes love submissives that are dominant in their business and work life. To answer this question, we will have to look at why are women in interested in submissive men in the first place. What is it that dominant women look in submissive men? What behaviors and acts attract dominant women towards a submissive man and what factors contribute to shaping the perfect submissive? These are all important questions, but in fact, there is no one set of features to define the perfect submissive.

Each Domme is different and so are her preferences. Some like younger, fit men will others desire those who lend control for some time but are in fact successful, dominant men in the outside world. So, why do dominant men submit and why are they more appealing? Let’s dig a little deeper.

What Do Dommes Want In Submissives?
Apart from the obvious desirable traits of being open and honest at all times, a submissive has to be truly interested in submitting while dating a dominatrix. Submitting is not something one can perfect while experimenting with the power-exchange dynamic. Only realizing that it is a complete lifestyle and embracing it completely leads to being a successful submissive. Moreover, great communications skills and willingness to experiment are always desirable traits in a submissive.

Furthermore, a submissive needs to realize that even if he is with a Domme, she is a human just like him, and so there are other things in a BDSM relationship than just submitting. We can’t stress enough on the importance of compatibility in a BDSM relationship especially when dating a dominatrix. Being attracted to a submissive does not only come from his abilities to submit but also the kind of human being he is. This is why submissives who are dominant in their life are perfect for Dommes. They have a lot of things on in their other than just submission; the domme sees that and takes pride in dominating her submissive however she wants. Molding someone dominant into a submissive you desire for a brief period of time is fun and exciting.

Why Is A Submissive Who’s Dominant In Their Life More Attractive?
It’s all in the mind. We believe that the reason why a dominating a ‘dominant’ submissive is fun is psychological. Knowing that he is a completely different person out in the world and is only a submissive when he’s with you brings exclusivity into a BDSM relationship. Such a submissive may just submit like others but a domme feels she has to put extra work to get him to submit which makes it more exciting. It is as if a ‘real man’ is submitting to you fulfilled your fantasies and he might be hard to dominate even if he’s not.

This hint of ambiguity builds up a healthy tension amongst a dominant and submissive which is released during the scene. Having such a submissive around adds a new dimension to the power-exchange dynamic. He is not clinging to let him submit to you; outside of the dungeon, he is just someone who is in control of his life. He is not begging for it all the time, he is different than the others, but you know he wants you to dominate him; sounds dramatically appealing right!?

On one end he is this dominant person who just wants everyone to act perfect around him and on the other hand, he just wants to make her Goddess happy. He doesn’t care for anybody but he does care for her domme. It may sound weird, but in fact, this dual personality of your submissive will make you feel special.

Finding The Perfect Submissive
Finding a submissive who’s dominant in their business and work life is a jackpot! As an experienced dominatrix, you know how hard it is to find the perfect submissive. Some submissives don’t understand their well, while others are just too clingy. Having someone around who just wants to be dominated all the time can become too stressful. Being in a dominant is a great responsibility and you can’t function well if you’re frustrated by your submissive.

When a domme finds someone who’s dominant in their life, its a win-win situation for both. He lets her be and gives her space, but is there when she needs him. He has got a lot to offer but only when she wants it.