Every head turns when she walks into the room. She’s sexy, smart and knows exactly what she wants. Let’s get to know this woman that oozes confidence. Before you date her you also need to know exactly what you want. Let’s take a look at some things you should know before you date that beautiful Dominatrix.

• This is not a game! This is a lifestyle. If you want to play at being a Submissive once in awhile then you need to find a partner willing to experiment with you. A lifestyle Domme does not play at being dominant. She is dominant all day, every day. She can/will have influence over every aspect of your life.

• Sure you will have play times with your Mistress, when she chooses it. There will also be training sessions and normal everyday life stuff. Which leads to the next thing you should know before starting this relationship.

• Trust: We all know that trust is a key component in every relationship but it is a cornerstone in a BDSM relationship. You must trust your Mistress like you have never trusted any other person in your life. You have to trust her enough to allow her to make all of the decisions.

• This isn’t going to be anything like a vanilla relationship where you discuss things and come to a decision together. In this relationship your Domme makes every decision for you. Now each Dominatrix is different, but some will even decide what you eat, study or what you do during the time she isn’t with you.

• Communication: This goes right along with trust. You must trust her enough to communicate with her. Tell your Mistress your goals/plans, your darkest desires and your deepest fears. You’ll need to be upfront with your Goddess.

• One of the first conversations you should have would be about your kinks/fetishes. This conversation is important to help ensure that it’s a good match. Your Mistress will help you explore these to a level you never dreamed possible.

• Another conversation that should occur is about safe words and when to use them. Safe words are for the submissive safety. Your Dommes job during a scene is to push your limits but never in an unsafe way. If something is to much, use your agreed upon safe word to end the scene. Once the scene has ended tell her why you felt unsafe.

• This isn’t all about sex. Yes, sex is one aspect of a relationship but it’s only a small piece. This relationship is more about helping you grow as a submissive. Teaching you how to Worship your Mistress.

• Be prepared to learn. You will learn things about yourself and your Domme. She is not like any other woman you have ever known. Learn what she teaches you and learn it well.

Really dating a lifestyle Dominatrix or in General dating in the BDSM world is not much different than dating anywhere. You just need to know what you want and what to expect beforehand. Being a submissive isn’t for everyone. If you can’t place all your trust in someone enough to let go then maybe you haven’t found the right Mistress for you. Always pay close attention to how you feel and communicate that to her. Don’t play at being a submissive, that’s not fair to either of you. Have fun and Happy Dating.