BDSM relationships are not all about whips, chains and pain at all times. Disciplining your submissive is important and while punishments are an effective way of directing them towards something you’d want to never happen again, rewards can motivate your submissive to be always at their best behaviour around you. By reinforcing them positively with the help of rewards a domme can not only be sure that his submissive will submit better but also respect her more.

A Tailor-Made Reward Program
Some submissives will enjoy more while serving you and others will enjoy their dominatrix being dominant and in control. Know and learn about your submissive so you can judge what can be a good reward for him. Observe or even ask him what he enjoys the most so you can create a reward system tailored according to his needs and desires.

How Do I Reward My Submissive?
There are many ways to reward your submissive and for that, you first need to know what they like and enjoy. The rewards can be sexual or non-sexual ranging from spanking to a dinner date at your submissive’s favourite restaurant. Ask them about the things they find sexually arousing and try to incorporate them in your routine every once in a while to show them you’d take care of their needs if they keep behaving and serving you. For a reward system to work make sure to communicate to them that a certain activity you’re letting them do is because they have been good.

Make sure you show them you’re happy with their performance after they have a carried out a task in an efficient manner and keep a close eye on how your submissive reacts to your non-verbal forms of rewards. Always keep an out for a submissive carving extra attention. Has your submissive been misbehaving lately? Maybe he wants a little more attention from your side or wants you to dominate and control him more. You’re the one with a dominating role in this relationship but that does not mean your submissive does not that have needs of his own. A dominatrix that acts indefinitely to his good or bad behavior can be frustrating for a submissive.

Last but not the least, praise them and tell them they’ve been a good boy. If they’ve been performing exceptionally well you could even take them out for a dinner date or a movie, a surprise break from his submitting duties. What could be even more exciting is to ask your submissive of a fetish he wants to try out the next time you are dominating him. Let him a prepare a fetish wish list and only turn to his bucket list of kinky stuff when he’s been behaving well.