Every domme has her own set of preferences when it comes to choosing a submissive and many dominant women love and prefer service oriented slaves and submissives. So, what exactly is BDSM servitude? Let’s dig a little deeper to find out.
In the most simplest of terms, BDSM servitude means serving your dominant. Servitude in BDSM refers to service that isn’t limited to or in other instances does not include sexual fetishes and kinks. A service-oriented slave is supposed to fulfill their dominant’s needs. When we talk about BDSM involving sexual play scenes, these can be practiced in a time frame decided by the submissive and dominant. However, slaves with BDSM servitude preferences often opt for the BDSM lifestyle instead of play scenes that last an hour or two with their dominant partner.
Is the Service-Oriented Lifestyle for you?
This is an important question that should be answered before delve even deeper into the details of BDSM servitude and how it works. This is something that can differ from person to person. Imagine, would you be alright with serving your domme’s needs other than fetishes and kinks? Would you feel satisfied if she feels happy after you’ve just handed her a cup of coffee?
Servitude includes chores that aren’t sexual and can be become pretty challenging at times since you wouldn’t be always in the mood to serve your dominant; sometimes you would need to push yourself. The service could include carrying out chores that are personal to her and have nothing to do with you. If questions come to mind while visualizing this, think again before opting for the service-oriented lifestyle. Although consensual, if you think that the dominant should consult or think about you before asking you to perform a service, BDSM servitude might not be for you.
What Does ‘Service’ Mean?
Service be any activity you would need to carry out for your dominant’s pleasure. Anything that helps them relax or takes some load off their mind. This can be as simple as preparing their coffee or as complicated as absolutely anything they can think of. Be mindful of the fact you would almost never feel sexually aroused by performing these services, which is why this is only for those who enjoy serving their dominants in a selfless manner and feel pleased when their domme is satisfied.
How Does This Power-Exchange Dynamic Work?
The power-change dynamics in BDSM servitude can get very complicated for some to practice because it’s so detached from the sexual form of BDSM but is still fulfilling for both the submissive and dominant. As we all know, a dominant has a great responsibility in any BDSM cavity and dynamic to make sure their submissive’s needs are taken care of. This applies to BDSM servitude as well, where both partners are supposed to satisfy each other.
A domme should always keep a service-oriented submissive busy so they deem themselves of value to their dominant. We have mentioned multiple times in this article that servitude has nothing to do with sexuality, but at the end of the day, that too depends on the people involved in a BDSM relationship. Sexual play can be directly referred to as a service or be included as a reward for exceptional service. Moreover, if the BDSM partners are switches, a dominant can order their submissive to take on the role of a dominant as a service to them.
Moreover, it is also exclusively dependent on the partners involved to decide the extent of service to be included in their relationship. A submissive has to also not just complete the service, but his mind and heart into it so the dominant sees they’re interested in serving and not just doing it for the sake of it. A dominant will not need the dishes washed all the time which is why they will have to find ways to keep the submissive buys.
How Service-Oriented Slaves Get Fulfillment
Since everything they’re doing is to serve their dominant, what makes the submissive feel fulfilled? It may sound strange but this also is the domme’s responsibility. A dominant should never take the services of a slave for grated and show them that their services have given them the chance to relax. Service-Oriented slaves are people with a keen interest in serving others and they have chosen the BDSM lifestyle because their services will be rewarded here.
On the other hand, as a submissive, it will take time for you to understand what services you feel the most satisfied performing. This is something your domme will understand with the passage of time too. This also where negotiating comes in, when a slave and domme sit down, put forward expectations, communicate and agree to keep everything consensual.
