Before discussing why and how would a submissive provide for his domme, we need to first know the differences between a regular submissive and the one who provides for her dominatrix. A submissive is someone who submits. The act of submitting can cover loads of aspects. There are submissive who are looking to escape from their regular lives and want to give up power and responsibilities for just a little while. These are the ones who regularly visit their dominatrix but choose to be independent individuals otherwise.

On the other hand, there are submissives who love to completely give up their decision making power and lives to a domme. This means she dominates each and every aspect of her life, from the bedroom to ordering him to carry around chores and even making important decisions on his behalf. Being a submissive and a dominatrix is not as simple as it sounds. On the surface, you are just giving up or taking control but it takes a lot more than just saying that you agree to take or give up control.

As a submissive, it takes a lot of trusts to hand over your life to another persona and as a dominatrix, you have a responsibility to take care of your submissive. Being a dominatrix, you’ll be pushing their boundaries but also stopping right before the tipping point. These are some common dynamics that are always in motion regardless of the kind of a BDSM relationship.

A Submissive Who Provides
A submissive who likes to provide for his domme is someone who likes to serve his mistress by buying her gifts or paying for dinner on a date. For a submissive to able to provide he obviously has to be a wealthy or well off man; the women wanting these kinds of men feel they want something more from a submissive than just dominating him physically or emotionally. Dommes view this as a basis for a long-lasting relationship. For a man in a BDSM relationship and also providing for you, he would have to believe that he is actually serving you and not doing you a favour.

A submissive should view this as an opportunity to empower his domme even more by giving her financial stability. She can have so many choices the next time she goes shopping and this all because you have empowered her financially while the act of providing her needs to be seen as submission. You should be glad you are contributing your domme’s greater plans, contributing to the life of the woman who takes so many pressures off you and helps you relax in the most toughest of times.

When a submissive tries this for the first time he will know that there is a power exchange happening with the act of helping her domme become financially independent. If the submissive is a wealthy man, trusts her domme and truly thinks of his domme as superior, he should not have a problem in providing for her.

Create And Uphold A Balance
The domme, however, should be mindful of a balance that she would need to create for this arrangement to go on for a long-term. As a domme, you should make your submissive believe that this way you feel empowered and happy. You should keep doing your part and although you are dominant in this BDSM relationship, if you’ve just started discovering the financial aspect of your relationship, never make him feel you think you are entitled to his resources; instead, make him want to provide for you!