When we talk about sex toys, we often take one for granted which has been provided to us by nature; our hands! Hands can be used to enjoy one of the most common fetishes for kinky submissives in BDSM; spanking and slapping. Spanking is extremely common in the BDSM world and often is one of the first things a BDSM couple experiences when they start the journey of power exchange together. Spanking is both fun and can have an impact on the receiver i.e. the submissive as well as the dominant.

If you’re new to the BDSM world, experiencing spanking can let you know if you would like to try any other kinky stuff. The act of spanking does sound simple, but in fact, there is no one way to spank someone. There are different techniques to slap someone on different parts of the body. You can spank someone with your hand or opt for toys such as floggers. The act of spanking is mostly safe and can act as a great entry point into the d/s dynamic.

What Is Spanking?
Spanking is when your partner slaps you on your ass and it falls under the category of impact play. Since it is a lighter activity compared to all the intense acts a submissive and dominant can practice, spanking can act as a foreplay activity before really upping the ante in a BDSM scene. Similar to any other BDSM activity that involves pain for pleasure, spanking can evoke sensations in your body. Although it is mostly practiced on one’s ass; other body parts are can also be spanked provided that the area you are slapping is safe to spank.

There can be a plethora of reasons why someone likes to spank or receive a spanking, the activity has to remain consensual at all times. This is why couples in BDSM relationships should never avoid setting boundaries before practicing scenes.

Asking To Be Spanked
Communication is integral to any BDSM relationship’s success. Once you’ve thought about an activity you’d like to include in your next session, talk about it with your partner. The worst thing to do would be to just start with the activity within a scene just to see if they like it or not. This is not a good idea because it will damage the trust between a dominant and a submissive. BDSM is all about pushing each other’s limits but not without honest communication.

Regardless of if you’re the one spanking or receiving a spanking, a thorough discussion is needed. Set boundaries about how hard you want to be hit and if your partner would be alright if you tried a flogger on them. Your partner can reply to you by telling you if they find your suggestions sexy or if they think otherwise. We would also advise that whenever you want to discuss to include something new in an upcoming scene, talk about it in a non-sexual setting at first. Talking about something new during a scene or aftercare might scare them, even if weren’t going to start right then.

Your Body – A Spanking Wonderland
As we said earlier, most prefer to hit on the ass but it’s not the only place someone can be spanked. If your submissive agrees to it there are other places you might enjoy spanking them. Discuss with them first and see if they are willing to be slapped elsewhere. Let’s look at body parts other than the butt, where you can spank your BDSM partner.

Thighs
Thighs are covered with a lot of muscles which make it a great body part for spanking. You can even try slapping them on the inside of the thighs, which is, in fact, a more sensitive area than the outer thighs. Just imagine your submissive lying in front of with legs spread waiting to be slapped!

Chest Area
Why chest and not the belly? Because the organs in the chest area are guarded by a rib cage which makes it safe and fun space to enjoy some spanking. You would think that the chest is a small area but it isn’t. Some like getting spanking on the breasts while others prefer being hit a little above the breast. Ask your submissive where they like it the most.

Face
As you would’ve imagined, spanking on the face can get extremely intense and which is why your submissive should trust you completely and have a safe word ready if it gets too much for them. However, if your submissive loves being humiliated by you, the face would be a perfect place for them to get slapped. As in every other BDSM activity, spanking is also all about hitting the sweet spots while also being in control of yourself as a dominant.

Toys For Spanking
There is no better toy than our hands to start exploring spanking with. They are perfect that they let you be in control of the intensity and nature of a slap more than any other toy.

Another great tool for spanking is the paddle. Paddles are easily available and come in different materials. The sensations generated by paddles depend on the material a paddle is made with. Other toys include whips and floggers, both of which come in a variety of sizes and shapes; you will have to find the one that works for you.

When buying a toy always keep the mind the preferences and boundaries outlined by your submissive. Taking care of a submissive and their needs is the hallmark of a great dominant.