When you’re looking for someone to date there come moments when you feel you’ve found the woman of your dreams. If you’re a submissive, a perfect woman is the one who is confident within her skin, independent and secure about herself and of course you match when it comes to the kinky stuff. Have you met someone you feel can be the domme you’ve always desired and are preparing for your first date? Read on as we jot down a list for you to follow if you want to have an amazing first date.

Let Her Dominate
The first and the most important pillar of a long-lasting relationship with a dominatrix; let her dominate – from the start! You may have heard people say that your first impression is your last; while it will definitely not be the last, first impressions are always important. From your actions to your conversation show her you can be trusted and and willing to be dominated by her. Let her make the decision of choosing a place to meet and when you do meet, follow her lead at all times. If she feels you are a someone who is trustworthy, she will open up to you about herself in a much better way.

Listen Carefully
Lookout for the moment when your mistress decides to open up to you and make sure you listen carefully. Know that if this date goes well and you decide to meet again, you’ll be the one obeying her so it is of utmost importance that you listen to your domme as carefully as you can at all times which will help act, behave and take care of her needs in a way she likes. From what she tells you try and judge what she wants and what she doesn’t. If you can’t figure it out for yourself you can always ask, but in a subtle manner as it is your first date and you’ll have many more chances to know her preferences once you start dating.

Don’t Let The Opportunity Pass
When you get the chance, be expressive about why you want to be in a BDSM relationship and if she asks about what your preferences when it comes to kink and fetish do not hold back! Don’t let this opportunity pass, because the reason you two are sitting at the table conversing is because you both are looking for a person who could match your level of kink. Always make promises you can keep and never mention anything you wouldn’t be able to act upon. Finally, although it would be a first date, try and decide the level of submission and domination but do not it by yourself, rather ask her about what being a domme means to her and what she is looking for in a submissive.

Relationships are based on similar grounds whether they are in the vanilla world or the BDSM one. Trust is always important and you will learn a lot about each other once you are together but first dates are a great chance to lay down the foundation of trust and let your dominatrix know why you want her as a part of life. Let her know submitting to her would not only turn you on but complete you as a person, be as obedient as possible, empower her and she’ll be making plans to meet you again very soon.