The BDSM lifestyle set in stone with a femdom marriage. Sexual exploration and adventures have always been a part of submissives and dominants involved in BDSM. What if these partners decide to be part of the BDSM lifestyle forever and want to keep progressing on the path of sexual exploration forever with their d/s partner. One way of embracing the kinky lifestyle for longer periods is to start living together with your BDSM partner. Another way to embrace this lifestyle forever is to get involved in a femdom marriage. Yes, we know that you always understood that BDSM a dynamic that is used to lessen stress and commitment would bring stress into a relationship, however, there is no one to say that forever cannot happen. Once a domme and submissive get involved in a femdom marriage, they might struggle at first but once you’re past the initial hiccups, the relationship really is worth it.
Today we talk about how to embrace the BDSM lifestyle forever and help each overcome the initial bumps in the road to a happy femdom married life. Marriage is indeed as a great as a commitment as any, so you both need to first individually ask yourself if you that is what you want. If you feel your compatibility, kinks and fetishes can hold you a together for a lifetime, a femdom marriage would most probably work out just fine.
Learn About Femdom Marriage
Before you take the final step towards marriage, it is of profound importance for both a domme and submissive to learn how different a femdom marriage can be from an ordinary marriage. If you have friends in a local BDSM club, ask them about their similar experiences or just reach out to the BDSM community online. You will meet lots of people who have experienced this and learn valuable lessons you can benefit from. Their experiences can help make your transition better. It is always great listening to others experiences; this puts things in context for you and helps soothe your nerves.
Spend More Time Together
To feel that you are so in love with someone that you can spend a lifetime with one another is a magical feeling indeed. Unless you think you know them best and can afford to spend a lot of time with them, getting married might not be the best option. Once you think you ready to get married, start by spending more time together. Spend weekends at your pomme’s place and see how that goes. Living together will open up a new world and it is better to start getting used to that world as soon as possible. Moreover, spending more time in a singular place will help both the submissive and dominant learn each other’s habits and life choices outside of kink. See if you can handle each other as well for longer periods as you were before.
Personal Space Will Go a Long Way
Marriage does not mean that you have to share everything all the time. Give your partner space now and then. This will help them feel comfortable and thinking they can survive in your space. Let them have their time to themselves. This does not mean that you are distancing them from you, it just means you are doing your relationship a favour. Give each other breathing space and get slowly accustomed to each other.
Conflicts Will Happen
With marriage, your routine will change and conflicts will eventually rise. Incorporating a whole new being into your life can get difficult if you expect everything to go smoothly all the time. Talk your conflicts down and always be open for compromise. The boundaries that come with BDSM will help you establish ground rules to take everything in control. With BDSM boundaries in place, both partners know that there are consequences to crossing a line.
However, femdom marriage and the BDSM Lifestyle is more than kink and play; it means two people with different ideas and outlook to life living together. A domme might have to tone down their dominance every once in a while and take care of their submissive’s needs.
Don’t Expect BDSM All Day Long
As said before, BDSM is not all kink and play. Giving each other time away from BDSM will help you relax and make things work for the long term. Know that your submissive or domme will not be in their role all the time unless your contract states so. Accept and embrace the change you have brought into your life. Know that this is not about spending 2 kinky hours together but embracing a new partner forever.
Take Things Slow
Since this is no ordinary marriage, laying ground rules will always be a good idea. See how and if your BDSM contract has to change after marriage. Are there any new privacy rules you would want to add? Also, know that since your submissive will most probably be moving in with you, the first 1 or 2 months will not be the time to overwhelm with everything right away. Take your time and let them adjust as well.
