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Find a Femdom and BDSM Dating: Approaching a Dominatrix The Right Way
Nov 4th, 2018 · Tips Tips

To find a femdom and bdsm dating with a dominatrix is hard but only because of wave after wave of bad BDSM dating websites. We are clearly the remedy to this major kink issue. Are you new to BDSM dating or are an experienced submissive who finding a femdom? The first thing you need to know is that you won’t just be able to attract any Domme by using any of the tips listed below if you don’t present yourself as someone they’d want to be with. As a domme, she’s probably heard a lot of men say that they will obey her at all times to submit to every demand of hers. The two most important factors to be considered are your needs and if you’re ready a power exchange relationship.

As a submissive, you will have to come up with a sketch of your dominant in your mind. You will also have to consider the fact that as a submissive you will be expected to always be on your best behavior; are you ready to give the control of your life to someone else?

Once you’ve decided that its time for you start a BDSM relationship, the next step is to find a dominatrix you like and approach her. Here are some tips to help you approach her in the right way.

Introduce Yourself First
When you are on a BDSM dating site, just hello is not a great conversation starter. There are thousands of users on our BDSM dating site which means she would’ve received a plethora of such vague messages. Say something meaningful instead. Moreover, do not start with the kinky stuff. Although your kinky needs and fetishes will prove helpful later on, you should start by introducing yourself. For a domme to be interested in you as a relationship partner, she needs to know that you will be a great partner even when the play is over.

Communication has to play in any BDSM relationship and communicating openly starts right from the beginning so don’t be shy when laying your expectations, needs and wants on the table. Don’t let them feel that you find it hard to communicate with the other person because a BDSM relationship can’t flourish without active communication from both partners. Moreover, you have to present yourself as someone who’d be ready to push their limits at times because that’s what BDSM is about; experimenting.

Approaching Organically
Before you go on and present your case, ask around and conduct a little research of your own. Find if they are in a relationship and get in touch with any common friends to know more about her life and interests. Knowing about her interests will help you keep the conversation going.

When you do find a femdom and approach a dominatrix, don’t be indicated by her. Dominatrices like a challenge, they like don’t like a doormat of a submissive. Approach in a confident manner and introduce yourself. If the topic of your interests in BDSM come up, do not manipulate facts just to get them into a relationship. This may help you land your perfect domme but the relationship won’t last long.

Approaching Virtually
When you find a femdom and approaching a dominatrix online, keep your first message to the point and meaningful. An advantage of our online BDSM dating sites is that you have a blueprint of who they are thanks to their profile where they have listed their interests. BDSM dating has made finding a dominatrix so much easier and this why the BDSM online dating scene is on the rise.

Keep in mind that the purpose of your message is a way of getting to look at your profile. Avoid writing long stories, write just enough for them to have a peek at your profile. Also, when creating a BDSM online site profile, make sure you list details that would make it easy for her to take a decision. If you feel your profile needs work, change or add any details until it seems perfect. A well-written message won’t get you anywhere if you have an empty profile. Dommes get lots of messages from submissives. When the details of your profile are half-filled they feel you aren’t serious.

Moreover, when you message, include something you read them on their profile. This shows them that you read their profile. Try to find something you have in common from the details listed on her profile. If you find something, talk about so a common ground is established. It is very hard to show how you feel about a person when approaching someone virtually, however, by following these tips you can show them that you are seriously interested in them. If they feel that you aren’t like the others who are shooting messages without a context, they’ll surely reply you back.

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