Finding a mistress who is the right person for you and attracting them takes a lot of hard work, it really can feel like a never-ending uphill battle at times. This is hard enough when looking for a vanilla partner but for a submissive on the lookout for his mistress, the struggle is even more difficult. Many submissives do find the right match but do not how to approach their domme, hence screwing up their chances and getting no response at all. As a submissive you should know that many men just like you are looking for dominatrix so you’ll have to bring you’re A-game to attract her towards you. Here we discuss some tips you could follow to increase your chances of attracting a domme in the best way possible.

The Don’t Of Approaching A Mistress
Before we move towards the dos of approaching a mistress, the don’ts should be discussed. First of all, never send generic message copy pasted off the web; a domme has hundreds of people approaching her and she’ll know in an instant that you’ve put no effort in writing this message. Furthermore, do not send her pictures of genitals, she’d think you are a newbie to whom a domme-submissive relationship is all about sex; which it is not. Lastly, don’t talk about your kinks, you’ll look like a selfish person who just cares about satisfying his own needs.

Now that we’ve discussed the don’ts, let’s discuss some things you should do. Know that finding a domme is similar to regular dating as far as your conduct before the dating is concerned.

Build A Great Profile
Create a great profile. If you’re approaching a dominatrix online, she’ll obviously look at your profile. Make sure it is complete and do a little competitor analysis to make it different from other submissives.

Focus
Instead of messaging a hundred dommes, you should approach those who you think are compatible with you. Read their profile and look for common interests and kinks. Granted this will take longer, but when you finally find the one your chance to remain in a long-term relationship with this domme will increase. When you find a profile you like, read it several times and list down what she’s looking for in a BDSM relationship.

Looking at the right places as important as anything. You could try finding a dominatrix at vanilla dating sites but a great way of approaching a domme is to create a profile on a site catering especially to submissive-domme relationships.

Send A Perfect First Message
Now that you’ve found a domme that your think would perfect for you, do you message her right away? You could but first go through her profile again. This message is your chance at informing her that you are different from the hundred other messages she received this month. When you’ve read her profile and found common interests, talk about those in your first message. Keep it short, friendly and respectful. This will show her that you’ve actually gone through her profile and that you both have common interests.