To understand the relationship between a masochist and sadist one must first learn to not confuse the BDSM side of a sadomasochistic relationship with that of a dominant-submissive relationship. Why would someone love pain? Why would someone like to inflict pain on someone and experience pleasure? These are all perfectly valid questions from people who are unaware of how a sadomasochistic relationship works.

Sadomasochistic Relationship
A relationship between a sadist and masochists involves the giving and receiving of pain. The masochist associates pain with pleasure and the sadist is a pain administrator who feels pleasure by inflicting pain on his/her submissive. By this description of a sadomasochistic relationship, it sounds intense, and make no mistake it is really intense but also the most perfect dynamic a sadist and masochist would want to find themselves in.

The Sadomasochistic Side To A Domme-Sub Relationship
On the other side, in a BDSM relationship between a submissive and dominant, the partners exchange power and it is all about control. The dominatrix seeks obedience from a submissive and the submissive is obligated to his domme’s obedience at any cost. In a domme-submissive relationship pain is not an always a component, it can be but it isn’t necessary. However, when you add a sadomasochistic side to a domme-submissive BDSM relationship it is one of the best scenarios both the play partners can find themselves in. Just like any other relationship, a sadomasochistic one also involves agreeing to certain boundaries at first and coming up with safe words.

When both the domme and submissive have agreed to terms they can create an intensely passionate experience together. For a sadist domme to perfect her part, it is often beneficial if she thinks like a masochist and put herself in his shoes. This way not only can she experience the pleasure she feels but can also enjoy the experience from the masochist’s perspective as well.

Before starting a scene, discuss with your submissive what his limits and desires are and tell him yours. You both can slowly start learning together and after a while even buy toys to make the experience more worthwhile. Adding a sadomasochistic to a BDSM relationship can increase the level of intimacy and trust tenfold. A sadist domme and masochistic submissive can together experience an adrenaline rush like never before, as a result of which a level of mutual satisfaction is reached. If the domme and submissive decide to try and let their sadist and masochistic sides take over their relationship, the result can be truly miraculous!

Perfecting the sadist and masochistic roles requires practice and continuously learning about each other. There is no better way to learn more about this kind of relationship than experiencing it first-hand with your submissive and gradually increasing the intensity of pain in a sadomasochistic BDSM relationship.