No matter the number of hours you and your submissive have spent in your bedroom practicing BDSM, you may still have a need or craving to control your submissive in public. This is not something unusual; a domme and submissive can, by all means, take BDSM out of their bedroom. Appearing in public as a submissive can be new for a sub and hence a domme needs to train and give lessons to her submissive to act in public.

Submission Not Correction
When in public a submissive should always act in a way that makes his dominatrix look right. He may feel that a domme is not making a decision that is perfect in every sense but being a submissive his job is not to highlight her mistakes but follow her at all times. The domme may not be perfect but what she says or orders is her will and needs to be followed.

Communicate
Before taking BDSM out in public, sit down for a talk with your submissive. Tell him you want to try this and learn what they feel about it. See if there are any aspects they’d want to be included or excluded. Communicate honestly about your expectations. He might not be alright with everything you say but BDSM is all about pushing boundaries. Talk to him and assure him to take things slow at the start so he can learn along the way.

Toys In Public
When taking a submissive out in public, you could make him wear toys such as the male chastity gear. A toy like this won’t reveal a thing to the people around you however your submissive will still be feeling who’s in charge.

Modify Words & Phrases
When out in public, any words or names you have to call out each other can be modified if either of you feels weird. You can incorporate words and phrases such as ‘May I’, ‘Thank You’ and ‘Please’ in your conversation with a domme. Even this might be uncomfortable for you at the start but eventually will start feeling right.

Always In-charge
Lastly, your submissive should always act in a way that portrays you as a domme. He should be following you when you are walking. A submissive should always remain as close as possible to a domme, always being at her disposal waiting for her orders. These movements are subtle but do have an effect when it comes to defining roles in a BDSM relationship.

Again, taking your fetishes and kinks may be new for either one of you, especially for a submissive. Talk to them and train them as often as possible. Tell them what is expected of them. This is slowly but surely start affecting their behavior and habits which will, in turn, lead to enjoy your relationship in public without any pressure on a dominatrix or submissive.