If the statement that sadist and masochist couples are more satisfied in their BDSM relationships sounds strange to you, then you might not be completely familiar with the concept of sadomasochism. What the media portrays about sadomasochism might have you thinking that why would someone enjoy receiving pain and the other want to inflict pain on their loved one? You may think that hurting someone else makes one a person not worthy of love, but what you do not know is that to a sadomasochist couple, pain and hurting are two different things.

It is true that pain has a very important role to play in the relationship of a sadist and masochist, but the key is to keep everything under control. A submissive is supposed to do whatever the dominant commands him or her too but the pain isn’t a necessary part of a dominant and submissive relationship. There are other psychological ways of controlling a partner and a submissive can be restrained without inflicting pain as well. But when a dominant and submissive take on sadist and masochist roles, the factor of pain takes center stage.

Misconceptions About S&M Relationships
Sadomasochism isn’t all about leather-clad dominants and their masochist partners receiving pain. A sadist and masochist couple can be found doing the same stuff that regular couples do. They have got bills to pay as well which is why they do have regular jobs and other stuff to tend to. They are living their daily lives, and it is up to them to incorporate the power exchange dynamic to their everyday lives or keep it to the bedroom only. If the term S&M only brings kinky dungeon sex to your mind, you are mistaken.

We aren’t saying that no kinky stuff happens in an S&M relationship; a lot of that stuff happens too! If you like being restrained or restraining others, there is a lot that can be done in a BDSM relationship. Everything in a BDSM relationship happens within a boundary and with the consent of the other partner. These boundaries can be overcome with time but things always remain strictly consensual.

Always Consensual
Communication remains a crucial component of any relationship and becomes even more important in an S&M relationship. It is ideal for BDSM couples to have agreed on everything from the outset. Limits, expectations and safe words are integral to any BDSM relationship. Only with everything already known to both partners, a BDSM scene is visualized and performed. Since there is something new every time, the S&M relationships never get boring and couples have a very deep understanding of each other’s roles.

Modern Day Sadomasochism
A sadist is essentially a dominant and only a submissive can become a great masochist. You have to a great communicator and submissive/dominant first to become a sadist or masochist. Once you have found a compatible partner, the next step is to ask the rich questions which would help you know about your partner. As a dominant, it is important to know your submissive’s limits. As you learn about your masochist’s boundaries and limits you will learn to better incorporate your sadist practices in those boundaries and learn new techniques to keep both of you satisfied. As the partners know and more about each other, they start exploring new territories together. BDSM is about exploring sexuality and it can only be done with trust.

Why Sadomasochist Couples Are More Satisfied?
Sadomasochism increases in trust and intimacy in several ways. As the level of scenes gets more intense, the level of self-sexual discovery increases as well. A sadomasochist couple gets to explore sexuality as they’ve never before. When in a scene, a masochist experiences many levels of consciousness and a sadist experiences a plethora of feelings as well. The result is a level of mutual satisfaction that can’t be attained in a vanilla relationship.

Although S&M is mostly practiced inside a dungeon, it increases trust and connections between partners even outside of the bedrooms well. When this heightened sadist and masochist intimacy is combined with the existing power-exchange dynamic of a dominant and submissive, the result in an exceptional relationship which is all about taking care of each other’s needs at all times.