Many people see sadist and masochist relationships with no experience in the power-exchange dynamic themselves and hence tend to misunderstand it as an abusive relationship, whereas in reality, sadists have an amazing BDSM relationship with their masochist partners. Research has even found out that the giving or receiving of pain for pleasure could have a meditation like effect on those involved. Long gone are times when BDSM was considered harmful or unhealthy. There are a plethora of research papers on the internet that suggest otherwise. They go as far as noting that BDSM relationship partners are less stressful and more happier than those in vanilla relationships; but how does pain contribute to a better relationship?

BDSM Isn’t All About Sex
BDSM, sadism, and masochism isn’t all about sex which is why partners do not get bored after a while of indulging in these practices. The giving and receiving of pain results in stress release in many forms which is why partners experience a sense of having being relieved after a scene. Because the partners experience this release together they are more connected with each other and feel like a singular entity at times. The emotions they experience might be different, it may provide each with a different kind of release but sadism and masochism do result in increased trust and intimacy amongst partners.

Pain Brings Us Closer, How?
Sadists and masochists experience a relationship that combines BDSM and power-exchange. So, why do they enjoy giving or receiving pain? Have you ever thought why adrenaline junkies traveling to dangerous locations or jump off skyscrapers? It is because the danger involved and then overcoming that gives them a release they desire. Sadism and Masochism is a similar practice in a sexual dynamic within a BDSM relationship. When partners experience this kind of release together it brings them closer. The scenarios are endless and there are no limits which is why BDSM partners are never bored and if they decide to opt it as a lifestyle they can embark on a journey of self-discovery like no other.

The Psychological Part
We either feel sensations through touch or through our mind. Sadism and masochism too aren’t just physical, it is a psychological for the sadists and masochists too. The feeling of being helpless and at the mercy of a dominant gives the submissive a therapeutic experience. They satisfy each other every day in sexual and non-sexual ways. They comfort each other and play with each other’s authority and comfort levels.

The release they want comes from the one they love. Not everyone knows that everything in BDSM relationships is consensual and this is why it can easy to misunderstand a BDSM relationship from the third-person viewpoint. Imagine a novice or completely unaware person watching a BDSM porn movie. To him it is straight up violent, he will think it’s madness unless he has experienced it for himself.

Increased Trust and Intimacy
Everything from psychological and physical satisfaction comes from within. Sadists and masochists are on a journey of self-discovery and sexual exploration together. Both are happy when the other is satisfied. These BDSM relationships are a mutually beneficial one based on serving each other. The dominant serves the submissive too in the sense that she is responsible for taking care of her needs. The result is a relationship that is mutually satisfactory. Combine this ecstatic power exchange dynamic with the fact that they have feelings for each other. A sadist and masochist are so connected with each other at several different levels that they bring out only the best in each other.