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Spanking A Submissive For Reward and Punishment: Kink Dominatrix Dating
Jun 23rd, 2018 · Fetishes Fetishes

Do you remember the first time you got spanked? It may have felt too much at that time is now may be a part of your sexual routine and you can’t imagine your BDSM relationship without it? Spanking is one of the most common sexual fetishes and is even commoner among dominatrix and submissives. The act of spanking is basically slapping one with your hand or a toy for sexual pleasure and as a fetish, it appeals to both the domme and submissive, but why is this common fetish such a turn on?

Getting spanked is basically the worst punishment some of us remember as children hence we automatically associate it with punishment. Though we’ve grown up, seeing someone getting spanked or hit triggers a response from our subconscious telling us the one being spanked is getting punished for something. When spanked the blood level in the area rises giving you sensations. Also, just the anticipation of when he’s going to get spanked in a BDSM scene can also pump up the adrenaline rush in a submissive’s body.

Start Slow
If you’re just starting to incorporate spanking into your BDSM play time, as a domme you should consider starting slow and working up to a more intense level. For both of you to enjoy you’d want your submissive to love getting spanked and for that he’d have to like it. It’s important to understand the different levels of spanking and your submissive to know where you should get started.


Communicate
Talk to your partner before surprising him something intense. Communicate to him that you’d want to take things a more intense level tonight and come up with safe words he could use if it starts getting out of hand. With time a domme starts to understand her submissive’s body language hence also understanding without him speaking that when he wants her to go harder. However, even if you have been doing this for a long time safe words are still important.

Learn Together
Experimenting with your submissive is one way to go about it but if your submissive feels uncomfortable about the idea of getting spanked in a more intense manner, maybe its time to spend some time with Google learning about spanking or share with him stories of other BDSM couples enjoying spanking. You can register yourself and your submissive for BDSM classes or gathering where you can meet like-minded people and learn from their experiences. Learning BDSM techniques together can make for a fun date night and help you explore different dimensions to your BDSM side or even discover new and hidden fetishes.

Foreplay
Before starting a BDSM play scene start with a warm-up whether verbal or physical. Good foreplay leads to hotter, intense and more enjoyable scenes with your partner as both of you are ready and looking forward to the experience. Take your time when starting to spank your submissive; once you know he’s craving for more, hold back a bit and make him ask for it.

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