As a submissive Sugar Baby, you crave nothing but control from your dominant Sugar Daddy and want him to spank you as hard as he can whereas your dominant on the other hand wants you to spend an hour waiting on your knees before he finishes his work and gets back to you. However, you don’t like waiting for so long and he isn’t that much into the specific spanking tool you like and desire. How could you not have known this earlier?
A Common Misconception
A common misconception when talking about BDSM relationships is that many people assume everything in these kinds of dominant-submissive relationships flows smoothly. After all how hard can it be for a submissive to do as the dominant says? A myth related to BDSM relationships is that the sub always ‘enjoys’ doing whatever in the world the dominant ask of him or her. This is not always the case.
In fact, this points to one of the mistakes a lot of dominants and submissive make which is basing their relationships on the foundation of the assumption that everyone would enjoy the kinks fetishes they have or will eventually consider including them in their BDSM relationship, but asking someone to fulfill your fetish forcefully is the same as asking a vanilla to get involved in a hardcore BDSM scene.
Your Kink Is Not My Kink
Not liking a certain kink of yours does not mean that the submissive Sugar Baby whom you are in a relationship is not willing to accept any of your kinks, it is just that she is a different person than you are and has different BDSM interests. Just as everyone has different hobbies we all also have different kinks and fetishes which is why kink compatibility is crucial to the long-term success of your relationship. There may be many kinks and fetishes your partner may not consider as arousing or fulfilling as you do.
Whenever you start a new BDSM relationship it is very important to find out whether you and your submissive or dominant are on the same page when it comes to kinks. When you find there are areas where you have differences you have two choices. The first one is to sit down, discuss and negotiate and the second option is to think and decide whether your partner is the right fit for you or not.
Ask yourself if you can tolerate their fetishes or can learn to love what the like? The dominants need to understand that it is as important for a submissive to enjoy the BDSM relationship as for the dominants. Avoiding problems with kink compatibility eventually comes down to honest and clear communication. It may feel tempting to jump straight into bed with your submissive without even knowing a little of your partner’s preferences but it is a mistake.
When starting a BDSM relationship it is good to always indulge yourself in a little fact-finding exercise and talk to each other in detail about your fetishes and kinks. Whether in person or over the phone what’s important is clear communication regardless of where and when it happens. You need to find out if your partner’s kinks match with yours and whether this relationship has the potential to work out towards the kind of power exchange you desire.
Establishing facts right from the start will help you save each other’s time and also aid you in avoiding any heartaches later in the relationship. Being a considerate dominant Sugar Daddy you can enjoy your submissive Sugar Baby’s trust and respect and understanding what a dominant wants can help make a submissive the most obedient one a dominant has ever had.