Vanilla sexual encounters and BDSM Fet life are two extremes, yet people in BDSM relationship report having better mental health, a satisfied sexual life, and lesser stress. When a couple disagrees on most of their interests, they can distribute their time and spend some time on activities each of them loves. When they like to eat different cuisines, they would go out to a Chinese restaurant one weekend and to an Italian the next. However, when partners disagree on how to and when to have sex, then the only choice they have is to reach an agreement that is just enough to partially satisfy each of them.

The solution to this is to go out and find a person to be with who has similar sexual interests and inclination to try the same stuff as you want to. This might not be a viable solution for many couples in a relationship since it would mean saying goodbye to your partner. However, if you have just got out of a relationship where you weren’t sexually satisfied, now is your chance to explore the world of BDSM.

BDSM Fet life – Spice Up Your Sex Life
BDSM is the act of using restraints, introducing a pain factor into your sex life and taking control fo your partner, all for the sake of sexual satisfaction and pleasure. Most of these terms may sound very harsh to a novice submissive or dominant but in fact, the basics of BDSM also includes keeping all sexual encounters safe at all times.

Being in a BDSM relationship provides you with a chance to spice up your sexual life. A submissive and dominant only start a relationship together if they know that they share the same kinks and fetishes. Because of the expectations that are laid out beforehand and the contracts that take place, there is little possibility that sex in a BDSM relationship would result in satisfaction. People who were once in a vanilla relationship and are now in BDSM relationships have reported that the level of excitement in their vanilla sexual encounters was nowhere near to that in a power exchange dynamic.

Negotiation To Action
The main reason of why sex in the BDSM fet life is more satisfactory is because a submissive and dominant don’t just jump into the sack right away. The first and most important part of a BDSM relationship is to agree on the timing, intensity and other factors of sexual encounters. In this phase, both submissive and dominant have the right to lay out their expectations. Open communication and honesty are the keys to succeeding this first step.

Once agreed on terms, the BDSM partners into the second stage. When it comes to the real power exchange, the dominant now has control of his or her submissive. However, what remains constant throughout is that everything remains safe, consensual and both get the pleasure they had once longed for.

Benefits Of BDSM
BDSM does not only satisfy you sexually. Being in such a relationship, partners have to communicate with complete honesty. Hiding things leads to a unsatisfactory sex. Guesswork has no place in a BDSM arrangement; everything has to be open and clear. Everything from the intensity of submission and domination to the lengths of each session is openly discussed. This discussion about sex in an honest way is bound to increase the satisfaction levels of sex and the relationship in general.

Actively communicating and taking care of your partner’s needs at all times also earns you their trust. Each partner is expected to abide by what was decided earlier, and if the partners were honest with their communication, there is little that can go wrong. A good dominant knows better than hurting the trust of their submissive. They know that once trust is lost in a BDSM arrangement, it is very hard to get it back.

Moreover, the name ‘submissive’ gives out an impression as if the submissive has no control and can’t say no but it, in fact, they have more control than you think. Being dominant is a great responsibility, you have to dominate your submissive while also staying mindful of the fact that there is a fine line between domination and abuse. In a setting where both have control, and one surrenders their control consciously, confusions don’t occur and hence the stress factor gets reduced dramatically.