BDSM has an obvious physical aspect to it, but it also has a psychological side to it as well which is can be practiced through many techniques, one of which is verbal humiliation. With no physical aspect involved, just letting your partner know that as a masochist into masochism you love being hurt can be quite arousing as well. These feelings can be transferred to the next person through the words you choose, the tone of your voice and body language associated with it. These feelings that are transmitted and perceived through words have a major effect on the power-exchange dynamic a submissive and dominant.
BDSM is a vast world compromising of kinks and fetishes, and the best part is that there is no limit to how we all interpret different fetishes. The freedom to modify each kink according to your and your partner’s needs is what makes the BDSM lifestyle even more desirable. Just one of the many forms is verbal humiliation.
What is Verbal Humiliation?
Verbal humiliation is when a domme uses different terms, words or phrases to humiliate their submissive or assert their authority. Similar to almost all other fetishes, verbal humiliation has levels too that vary according to an individual’s BDSM relationship and expertise. Verbal humiliation isn’t necessarily something that a sadist does. Masochists into masochism can also practice verbal humiliation by letting their partner how they love being hurt or enjoy being dominated.
Whatever the dynamic, verbal humiliation always remains consensual and it is important that the partners understand each other’s needs or else words can become quite misleading. For instance, if a submissive and dominant do not know each other well, the domme could misinterpret their submissive’s intention behind uttering a phrase.
Why Verbal Humiliation?
Pleasure has always been associated with the brain and the verbal form of humiliation is even more effective when it comes to stimulating sexual hormones in the brain. This is why verbal humiliation is no less of an activity as any. Let’s take a look at how to practice verbal humiliation the right way.
Smooth Communication
Simply because there isn’t a physical aspect involved doesn’t mean that you take verbal humiliation lightly. Never just start practicing it without taking your partner in confidence. Consent and knowledge are two crucial aspects to take into account when starting something new in a BDSM relationship. Trusting your partner is pivotal to any BDSM relationship success, ruining a perfectly find power-exchange dynamic requires just one wrong move.
Before starting to verbally humiliate them, sit with them and communicate your expectations clearly. It may also be a good idea to get out of your roles for a little while and communicate as just two people. This way your dominant would feel the pressure of speaking against their dominant and would hence speak honestly.
Masochism Starts Slow
Even with you know that both of you are on the same page, it is advised to take things slowly at the start. Before including verbal humiliation into your routine, you could try it out for a little while to get the feel of it. Fantasizing about it and practicing it are two different things. Regardless of if you are a sadist or masochist, take things slow at the star and let the learn who you are as a person so they can interpret your moves in a better way. BDSM is an incredible sexual, physiological and emotional journey which is exactly why you shouldn’t rush it and always take of the defined boundaries.
Context is Crucial
Anyone can just utter scripted words, but words said with a purpose behind them is what you should aim for. Words with thoughts behind them provide much-needed perspective to your BDSM relationship. What you say or are allowed to say will be defined your BDSM relationship’s dynamic but how you say it will completely be up to you. Also, you may not hit the sweet spot right from the start. You should let each other learn about what works for you. All relationships have a learning curve and the only forward is respecting them.
