There’s no denying that there is a certain psychological side to any BDSM relationship. The psychological dynamics at play are different for each couple but they do exist. It depends on factors such as your upbringing, your role in society, what characteristics best define you as a person and many more interlinked factors. What’s more important is how you perceive and rate yourself against such factors. This is what defines you as a person and why you have opted for a dominant or submissive role.

All relationships have similar core values but some normal rules do not apply to people in BDSM relationships. Moreover, the borderlines defining gender roles have blurred significantly over the past decade but a successful businessman is still expected to have a strong emotional personality. If you are a domme who is in a relationship with a successful boyfriend, you’d know how empowering it feels to have an otherwise strong individual completely surrendering to you when they are in your presence.

Successful Partners Are More Empowering
A successful submissive boyfriend leads to a more fulfilling experience for their domme. Knowing that when he is at work he is bossing people around, ordering employees what to and what not to do but when he is at your disposal he wants to be governed and that can make you as a domme feel entitled and deserving of the power you loves to exercise over your submissive. Your sub may just have come home after a big day at work, impressing the company’s CEO with his presentation but when he is around you he is committed to making you feel good which makes you feel more secure and in command as a domme.

A Mutually Beneficial Relationship
A successful boyfriend can make you feel like a true queen that you are, not only in the bedroom but in the outer world too. You could ask him to treat you to a date at a fancy restaurant just around the block and he would be more than happy to do as you command. A man who is an established businessman or at a managerial position at his workplace is making decisions everyday nonstop. Being around someone who can take some of the decision making pressure off him is a delightful change for him which you both would enjoy because of your own obvious reasons.

If you have found a successful submissive you should value him. Find the right mix of dominance for submissive; he may not be vocal about what he likes since you’re his domme, but you should silently be carefully observing of what he craves. At the end of the day a BDSM relationship is also a relationship and just like any other relationship, mutual satisfaction is key.