The people in the BDSM community believe that collaring was adopted from ancient cultures who used to collar their slaves which portrayed their status of ownership. However, there are other strange beliefs too that link collaring to education and the stuff. But let’s just keep the discussion to BDSM. When it comes to BDSM, collaring is considered as a practice that separates the BDSM hobbyists from people who are actually serious about kinks and fetishes. You’d be fascinated by the different meanings and symbolism a collar holds in the BDSM world.

It is equally valuable for both the submissive and dominant as for submissive it reminds them of being a property of their dominant and for dominants it denotes a special bond with their submissive. It is because of this importance that the collar cannot be worn by just anyone in the BDSM community. Since, collaring someone means you’ve now taken your kinky relationship to a very strong level of commitment, it can take a lot of time for a submissive to earn such a status. And when a submissive has earned the collar, keeping it also takes a lot of effort and commitment.

When dominants decide to collar someone they need sure if the submissive is worthy of it and this is something you cannot know from the start of your BDMS relationship. This is exactly why there are different kinds of collars according to your relationship’s level and why the timing of collaring is crucial.

When Collar Is Offered
The time in a BDSM relationship at which a collar is offered if very important. As mentioned above, collars are different than other BDSM toys such as floggers, chains, and restraints, they are there for a special reason. A submissive who does not know what a collar denotes and what will they owe to the dominant if he or she is collared, should not be offered a collar.

When a dominant offers a submissive a collar, they have the right to either accept it or respectfully deny. When a dominant gives a collar to a submissive, they mean to show a level of interest in them that is more than ordinary. This gesture is seldom taken lightly. These are the reasons why if you’re a dominant you need to be sure that they submissive you’re offering the collar is worthy enough for it.

Beg For It
Sometimes a dominant with just an increased level of interest in a submissive and would want them to beg to be collared. The submissive has to pick up the signals, interpret them and then get down to the floor to beg their master for being collared and take a major step towards being owned. Doing this, dominants eliminate the feeling of being misunderstood or rejected because eventually, it is the submissive that is asking for it. When a submissive interprets their signals correctly it means that their training is complete and now they are showing to the submissive that they are ready for the next step. The sole idea itself of a submissive getting down on their knees to beg for a collar seems attractive to every dominant.

Collarspace or No Collarspace
Now that we’ve discussed timing let’s discuss whether submissive is required to wear a physical collar at all times. It all comes down to the understanding between a dominant and submissive. However, when the ritual of collaring has finally taken place, the submissive has to always have a collar on. Some submissive are Ok with being seen with a collar in public and some or not. Even if they can’t wear a physical collar, something symbolic such as a ring or a bracelet, as decided by both the dominant and submissive, has to be worn.

Most of the times, submissive would love to have a symbolic collar on. BDSM is all about surrendering control and when you’ve finally found someone who you think can truly own you, a reminder of that with you at all times if actually desired by many submissive. However, if a submissive is not wearing a collar it doesn’t mean that they aren’t at a certain level in a relationship. collarspace or no collarspace, a submissive needs to be treated with the utmost respect.