Face sitting or queening is not at all a new BDSM fetish. Many domes and submissives in BDSM relationships are practicing it. To any novice, letting their domme sit on their face may seem scary and more than just a BDSM act, however, the act of queening still have the capability to drive BDSM partners trying it out for the first time nuts! Like any other fetish, face-sitting is designed to provide pleasure to both parties but is queening because the domme is the one in control. She is the dominant one while performing this act, hence she is the Queen.
Queening is not only limited to BDSM, vanilla partners practice it too. However, depending on the level of BDSM partners, queening can take a whole new meaning. Face-sitting is not just your domme sitting on your face – letting her sit on your face is a job of a slave, a chore he has to carry out with perfection. It is a complete sex act, as intense as any other popular fetish. Partners performing face-sitting can indulge in a variety of activities from cunnilingus to more extreme forms such as breath play.
Why Do BDSM Partners Enjoy Queening?
How would a slave enjoy letting his domme sit on his face? Why does the mistress get to enjoy the most in this fetish? These are a few questions anyone who isn’t familiar with the act of queening would ask. Once one digs deep and understands the mechanics of queening, it becomes evident how a slave would also get a lot of kick out of her domme smothering her with her body.
For starters, submissives live for times when their domme is dictating them. That’s the basic need of a slave when in a d/s relationship and queening fuels this need. Your domme’s sweat and taste all over the face, a part of you wanting to get out but another reminding you how you should obey your domme at all times. The decisions that you make every nano-second to stay put and wait for the next order. These are just a few examples of what’s going in a slave’s mind when at their domme’s disposal and the adrenaline rush that it causes. When a queen is sitting on a slave’s face, his only purpose is to serve and pleasure her. He is her property when in a BDSM scene, and the very thought of being owned can turn on any submissive.
On the other hand, for a domme, having their submissive under them is a sight any mistress would live for. Being pinned to the ground has greater meaning when viewed in the BDSM context. It comes into play in many fetishes such as feet fetish when a submissive is ordered by their dominant to lower them to their feet and lick them. A queen is psychologically and physically on top of her submissive when queening. She is his queen and he loves it. From then on, the queen decides to let him enjoy her as he pleases or dictates him as she wishes. A domme can even pair queening with verbal humiliation or pain for extra pleasure for both.
Safety During Queening
Dominating while face sitting is great, but no domme would want their submissive gasping for breath. Creating a memorable experience for both makes sure that your submissive keeps craving more instead of dreading the next time when you’ll indulge in the fetish. Since the submissive may not be able to speak as clearly during queening, the safe word can be replaced by a gesture. If your submissive is new to queening you’ll find the safe gesture coming into play quite often. However, once he sees that you comply with his request to halt, he will himself want to challenge his limits for mutual pleasure. An experienced mistress should always let beginners take time. Starting with an extreme experience such as breath play will most certainly do the opposite of turning him on. Doing this might fulfil your needs as a dominant at the time but it will scare your slave away.
The importance of taking a break while queening cannot be stressed enough as well. If you find your submissive not getting used to it even after several sessions, consider investing in a queening chair. However, buying a chair but cost you the physical touch of your partner. This is something that needs to be decided by both partners and also according to the tolerance level of the submissive. To still try and make the experience worthwhile with a queening chair, maybe partners interested in latex could buy one make out of latex or leather since these chairs come in a variety of different design and material. Now that we’ve covered most of the basics of queening, let’s have a look at some queening positions you could try with your partner.
Yes, My Queen!
This is the most basic queening position of all. Most probably the first position many try when starting out with face sitting. With her submissive lying down on his back, the queen kneels over him and places his head between her legs. The position is one of the more intimate in all of the queening positions because can maintain eye contact while in the act. It also does not take a toll on your stamina since both partners are pretty relaxed, hence it is suggested for longer queening sessions. Both partners are perfectly placed and the domme has maximum control – exactly how it’s meant to be.
Squat For the Win
Another basic position, but advised when the slave is new to queening and cannot bear the complete weight of his domme just yet. The queen squats over her submissive. Her vagina is directly over her slave, just like any other queening position, but it is not completely lowered onto his face. If the domme wishes, she can allow the submissive to place his hands on her ass and take all her in when he feels he can and take breaks when he deems necessary.
Arch & Ride
One of the most pleasurable queening positions ever, especially for the mistress. This one requires a queen to arch herself backwards and just subtly lay her ass on her partner’s chest. Her arms go behind her onto the floor and her vagina is right where it should be, facing her submissive’s face. Using the strength of her hands, a domme can literally ride her slave. For added pleasure, tie your slave’s behind his head, and ride him as you’d like or for as much time as you want. Take it slow or just thrust your flesh in his face, he’s all yours for the taking!
Stand & Deliver
Queening is not all about sitting on your partner’s face. Blowjobs are great standing up and so is queening. Take the ’sitting’ out of face sitting if you’d like and you’d be surprised by the result. Standing allows more room for both partners to maneuver. If you’d like to start a new, or slave wants to relax, the queen doesn’t have to get up. Just pull away, take a breath and get back to work. With your domme’s hands free while standing, she can even introduce a vibrator or sex toy in the mix to make things more interesting.
Queening is a great way to spice things in your bedroom and takes a whole dimension in a BDSM dungeon. Do not fret if your submissive or domme isn’t fond of the idea. If your partner is new to this, discuss why you’d like to experiment it with them and how can it bring pleasure to your relationship. Remind them that BDSM is all about crossing limits and embracing on a sexual journey with safety and consent of course. Make up their mind and buckle up for tens of hours of enjoying one the most underrated fetish of them all.
