Today, we are living in a world that is significantly different to the one before COVID-19. Almost all businesses have seen a shift post-Covid, but some have been affected in a way others have not. For instance, online dating experienced an unbelievable surge during the pandemic, and understandably so. However, because in-person meet-ups were still not possible, people just continued conversing with each other over these apps. This change allowed vanilla daters and online BDSM communities to experience the benefits of getting to know people better before committed to a date.
Conventional ways of meeting a person after an hour of conversation took a backseat and people increasingly started preferring to spend time to familiarize with each other online. This led to a rise in focused kink dating platforms and allowed people in online BDSM communities with an array of services to choose from.
Switching On Dating
The pandemic forced us to change how we approach BDSM dating. Those who love and live the BDSM did miss the in-person meetings, however, they started looking for alternative means to explore their kinds and fetishes. Dating platforms became more than a means of daters finding their potential match. The lockdown encouraged people to indulge in online discussions regarding interests, kinks, consent and more. Subreddits, chat rooms, and even social media BDSM communities became super attractive and attracted BDSM enthusiasts from across the globe.
This shift in dating styles helped newer people experience and become part of online BDSM communities. People who were first hesitant to explore their kinks just because they would be expected their partner in a haste, enjoyed the freedom the lockdown brought. They could now spend weeks knowing their partner online and proceed with things keeping in mind their comfort. A Dom hailing from Asia could easily connect with someone Latin America and explore their fetishes online. People from diverse backgrounds and locations became open to the idea of coming together as a member of these online BDSM communities and embrace the new norm of engaging in consensual power dynamics online.
This shift meant that apps and services had to change their platforms from just a means of connecting like minded individuals. BDSM dating platforms focused on providing a dominant and their submissive with the tools necessary to explore their kinks online. BDSM daters spend hours finding the perfect dating service for them. Algorithms that understand virtual kink dating, extensive profiles with maximum interests listed and filters enabling people to find the exact match became even more crucial.
It is safe to say that pandemic served as a change agent when it comes to the evolution of online BDSM communities. However, the pandemic has now officially ended. But it has left the BDSM community with one important lesson; getting to know each other online should always be preferable before meeting in person. Today online services are viewed not only as a means to find your potential match but as a tool that enables you to get to know them.
Virtual Bonds for Real Safety
If you are an experienced BDSM dater, you would be completely aware of the importance of consent and safety. And there is not better way to get to know your partner and feel safe than conversing with online before you decide to finally meet. Whether experienced or a beginner, when conversing online you can be sure that you have as much control of the situation as them. After all, you do not know this person and it is only a smart move to know them better before giving the control of your mind and body. Granted you cannot be a 100% sure about anyone, but chatting online can give a reasonable idea of their intentions. Power dynamics cannot be exercised when both parties do not feel safe.
Fostering First Date Comfort & Setting the Stage
How many have you avoided first dates with potentially great doms just because you thought you did not know them enough? Or because you doubted your ability of presenting yourself as a confident submissive on that first date? You can keeping walking away from situations like these only to blame yourself for the missed opportunity. Or you can embrace the comfort of online dating in its true form and make a conscious effort to eliminate first date awkwardness by getting to know them better before meeting.
Once a dom proposes the first, just be open with them and talk to them about the possibility of spending some time talking online. Once you spend weeks getting to know each other, you can be sure of the fact that you will at least a few ice breakers to avoid awkward silence.
Testing the Waters
Online dating helps you test the waters before going all in. What if you meet them on that long-awaited date only to get put off. No one has time to waste these days, which is why virtual kind dating enables you to be sure of them before meeting and that too with lesser commitment. Virtual dating means you do not have to commit to anything expect dedicating some time every day to talk to them.
You can even explore multiple options at once and choose the one that aligns best with your interests and kinks. There is no shame in talking to several people simultaneously. At this point you haven’t committed to anyone so it’s not like you are cheating. And if things don’t work out, it is just better to express the same online instead of when sitting across the table.
Exploring Diverse Options for Before Committing
Imagine you are living in the 1950s. Your friend sets you up with a blind date. You do not even know who this person is and if they will even be open to exploring kinks together. Now, imagine yourself in today’s world with a plethora of dating apps ready to present with hundreds of potential partners with just a click. Safe to say BDSM dating and finding that one partner to sync with must have been harder back in the day. So, why not take advantage of all these platforms we have today? Dive into the treasure trove of options, talk to them online to your heart’s content and commit to that one special person you know have a genuine connection with!
Seeking Kink Alignment with Potential Partners
BDSM dating is way more exciting than vanilla dating mainly because of the endless ways through which you can express your sexuality with your partner. However, the same fact can some times make it harder to find your perfect match. Even if you find someone nice to meet with, there is a big possibility that you might not share a great number of kinds and fetishes. And such matches are of no use in the BDSM world.
This is why it is important to talk to your partner before meeting them in person. Even if there profile lists their kinks, there is still so much to discuss and align on? For example, what is there idea of contest in a power dynamic? Are they open to deciding on safe words and starting slow? How important do they think aftercare is? These are all important questions and can easily become dealer breakers.
Tailored to Today’s Busy Lifestyles
We all would agree that connecting online and getting to know each other virtually just fits better into everyone’s busy schedule. When you do not know someone and do not connect on any level, it is hard to convince yourself to take our time and meet them based on a mere hunch that they will prove to be a great submissive or dominant. This may be easier to do when vanilla dating, but BDSM dating is a different ball game.
Consent, privacy, various kinks, security and more factors like these mean BDSM daters have a lot to align on before letting another person control their mind and body. No one has time for multiple dates, only to be disappointed after a few meetings. This is exactly why conversations like these should happen online. Partners can decide on a daily or weekly schedule and ease their way through the whole process.
