Humiliation is said to be one of the most intense emotions humans experience. Being humiliated can spark immense reactions and some even say it bring out emotions so intense that are not even experienced with love or heartbreak. If you are in a BDSM relationship, a domme or a submissive, you are probably familiar with erotic humiliation. Erotic humiliation is when a person feels sexually aroused when humiliated. Just like many other fetishes, the fetish of humiliation is vast. Erotic humiliation between a domme and submissive is the consensual use of humiliation for sexual fulfillment however, it needs to be said that not all of it is sexual.

While the act of physical humiliation is obvious, there are other kinds of humiliation such as verbal and public. Verbal humiliation includes calling your submissive names and insulting them and this can be coupled with other fetishes or even carried out by a domme when giving any kind of orders. Public humiliation is a more extreme kind where the submissive is subject to humiliation in front of other people.

Communicating Does Not Distance You
Communication your fetishes with your partner does not distance you and when you are an in a BDSM relationship, sharing your fetishes and kinks can increase your trust and intimacy tenfold. By sharing your desires, you are telling your domme that it is only her you want to share your deepest secrets and needs with. Try sharing a story of how someone they know incorporated humiliation in their BDSM play time and how it has enriched their relationship. When you provide another person with the social proof of something, it becomes more acceptable helping create interest.

Make It Appeal To Her
A submissive in a relationship with a dominatrix knows her well and can hence make a fetish sound appealing to her. Tell your domme that being humiliated makes you feel more of a submissive. By doing this you are making her see herself just where she wants herself to be; in a dominating role.

Start Slow
Whenever a submissive or a domme introduces a new fetish in their relationship, they should always start slow. Going all extreme can hamper the chances of a kink you love staying in your BDSM relationship for a longer period of time. Start slow and work yourself up. If you are a submissive you should never push too hard, it’s your dominatrix who should be deciding when to level up. So, your job as a submissive is to act your part best when she is humiliating you. Make her want to take it up a notch!