Filled with BDSM stores, clubs and lots of dungeons, San Francisco is often dubbed by many as the top kink spot in the United States. Despite its relatively smaller size, the city has many BDSM events to offer, ranging from public events targeting vanilla couples to expert master and slave gatherings. San Francisco is a city where diversity is celebrated which makes it a great place for a dominatrix, mistress, and submissive to the leave and restaurants behind and experience such events making up for memorable date night.

Bondage-A-Go Go
Bondage-A-Go Go is a fetish-themed party that happens every Wednesday night. Participants are expected to not dress up in street clothes and either put on black dresses or something more suited to the BDSM scene. Since it is a BDSM event, it is important for both the domme and the submissive to be over the age of 21. The place has two bars, a dedicated play space, and a dance floor; something for everyone.

SF Citadel
Ranked as San Francisco’s best dungeon among many BDSM communities, the SF Citadel is a must visit for a domme and submissive. Many parties are hosted at the SF Citadel and this place especially suited to new submissives looking for dommes. For more experienced partners, this is the best place to watch, learn and explore some new kinks and fetishes of their own.

The Leathermen’s Discussion Group
One of the very best events and learning experiences for any BDSM lover, The Leathermen’s Discussion Group takes place every once a month. Around 100 people gather every time and discuss fetishes, kinks, BDSM related topics or new skills. If you are a submissive who wants to inform their domme of a kink they’d like to try, take your domme to this event and raise the topic of your interest. The group will make sure the topic and hand are thoroughly discussed and you’ll get to know other people’s experiences about the very fetish you want to try. It is also a great place to meet and socialize like-minded people.

Northwest Leather Celebration
The Northwest Leather Celebration is a proper three-day conference in the Silicon Valley attended by thousands of BDSM lovers, dominatrix and submissive. The event lets you socialize with other masters and slaves, holds BDSM workshops and play gatherings. Like the SF Citadel, this is also a great place to meet new dommes or submissives. For an experienced BDSM couple, the event has a Master/Slave competition which is the highlight of the event.

Wicked Grounds Kink Café & Boutique
The Wicked Grounds Kink Café in San Francisco holds event almost every day of the month so make sure you check their event calendar to attend an event of your liking. Game nights, demos, kink education, community meet-ups and more, this place won’t disappoint. No reservations needed.