When in a BDSM relationship you don’t always have to be a sadist to or masochistic for sexual rewards, instead you can learn how to order your submissive in the bedroom in a way that he loves every minute of it and your position as a domme does not get affected. For this to happen a domme will have to learn what makes her submissive go ga-ga! You’ll have to learn how he wants you to assert power over him in the bedroom; a way that is sexy teases him and turns him on. For a dominant in a BDSM relationship with a submissive Sugar Daddy, it is really important to keep showing him that you care and the best way to do that is by incorporating the ‘sexy’ you in your playtime and here’s how to do it.
Choose Your Look
For any play or scene, the first thing a domme should consider is her seductive attire. Domme usually wears black leather but if you want to something extra special for your submissive, find out something that makes you feel powerful but also highlights your best assets; the one that your submissive likes. What turns him on? Is it your heels, cleavage, waist or legs; exposing which part of your body makes him feel horny? The aim here is to make you feel good about being a domme and turn him on in a way that he’s probably never felt before. Another part of getting ready or enhancing your part is the right makeup. Hot red lips, a gothic make-up or a wearing a mask, your submissive must like something more than the other.
Keep Him At His Place
Granted you are doing this to please him but remember he is the submissive which is why you should always be asserting your position as a top. In order to this, let him know you expect from him. He will see the extra effort you’re putting in for him but reminding him where he belongs will help you maintain an image of the dominant that you are in this relationship.
Plan of Action
Prepare a set of tasks in your mind, a script if you will, of what this particular activity or play time would look like. Incorporate acts that he finds sexy and keep the toys of his liking close to you. There are so many toys and props to choose from so make sure you have thought of something beforehand. Preparing a sequence of tasks in your mind will help guide you through the actual act so you don’t lose your attitude right in the middle of your playtime to figure out what’s next.
