Though finding a perfect dominant in the BDSM dynamic isn’t impossible, finding someone who is a transgender woman who is kinky, willing to have a BDSM relationship and is dominant is rare. First off, it is about time that we realize this with all that we have that trans people are just like every one of us and are capable of everything each one of us is. And when in the d/s dynamic, transgender women can become the kinky goddess you have always dreamt of. Moreover, if anyone capable of becoming a great switch when in a BDSM scene are trans women. There is no denying that if you dig deep there are some differences, but only when you’ve looked past them can you appreciate all the other stuff that is universal amongst all of us.

However, the fact that only an educated submissive can make a good slave is true as well and this is why when wanting to start a BDSM relationship with transgender women, a submissive needs to learn who transgenders are as people and what do they have common and how do they differ from us.

Transgender Women & BDSM
Given the cultural status of most transgenders in society and the BDSM community, you may a lot of people assuming that transgender women are mostly submissive in a d/s dynamic. Most of them are, however, this isn’t always true and this is also why dominant transgender women are an absolute catch. If we look at the BDSM community in general, several research numbers indicate that submissives sort of outnumber dominants for several reasons. Another reason why finding a transgender woman who is dominant is very rare and contrary to the norm. If you’re lucky enough to have found a dominant transgender woman, your best bet at keeping with you is treating her as a goddess that she is.

Know Your Partner
This is particularly important if you are a submissive who has never been with a transgender before. When trying to learn about your potential transgender partner, we’d suggest you to move away from mainstream media and research online for videos, blogs and content produced by women who have been a part of the BDSM community. Stepping out of your home and meeting such community members is better. We suggest you to avoid popular media because if you have been an experienced BDSM practitioner you’d know how the mainstream media wrongly portrays the relationship between a dominant and submissive. This is also true for the transgender community. Learning about your partner will allow you to be a better slave and respect her better. Besides, you don’t want your partner to spend all the educating you about who they are when on a date.

Goddess, not Princess
The two words may sound similar in the sense that both seem like they enjoy a certain privilege, however, there is a very think line that separates them. This is a given that your transgender dominant partner won’t be looking for any validation from you regarding her being a normal being like all of us. She already knows that, and rightly so. She also does not want to be spoiled by you, like a princess would want to. What she wants from her slave is to be worshiped with everything their submissive has to offer! She expects you to let her be in control at all times and surrender to her command while accounting for your safety and consent.

What Works for Them?
Have you ever wondered how sexually different your transgender women is from you? When it comes to her d/s preferences, does she want a submissive who makes her work or someone who submits at all times without question? These and many more such factors matter, the answer to many of which you will discover with time. There will be times when you sit with your partner to understand their needs and what they expect from you, while other times you will have to take cue from how they respond to what you do for them.

Submission as a Lifestyle
Regardless of whether or not you are living with your dominant, submission does not always have to be practiced while in a BDSM scene. There are a lot of ways by which you can show your kinky transgender goddess that you know she is in control and want to submit to her all the time. Chores around the house, running errands, or just a gentle foot massage – anything that would let them how you value being under their control and being a slave to your domme.

Thank you, Goddess
Your transgender dominant goddess is rare and she knows it. She wants a partner who recognizes that too and amazingly easy to show her that is by being grateful for her. Be thankful for the energy that they are putting in as a mistress and taking care of you in ways you don’t even know. Remember, its never all about grand gestures. Consistency and small, everyday stuff can go a long way in maintaining a satisfying BDSM relationship with a dominant transgender woman.