Tease and Denial Fetish is also known as T&D is simply defined as putting your submissive in a position where you arouse them for certain period of time without allowing them to orgasm. The fetish itself is very vast since it can incorporate a whole lot of scenarios as per the desire of the domme and the submissive but can both mentally and physically exhausting for the submissive if not done right. The T&D has endless facilities because each submissive has his own meanings of what turns him on and what doesn’t. What’s arousing or teasing for your submissive might not mean anything to another submissive which is why a domme will have to know her submissive really well if they want to explore the Tease and Denial fetish together. But why would anyone want to allow their domme to deliberately let them NOT orgasm? Let’s find out.

An Extreme State of Control
The first reason why someone would let their domme do it is that they are a submissive and are subject to perform as their domme desires. However, for those who are into this fetish, it is more than just submitting to your domme’s will; it is a form of sexual arousal for them. The Tease and Denial Fetish means powerfulness for the domme and giving ownership to their dominatrix for the submissive. Moreover, the anticipation of when her dominatrix will let him orgasm is a turn on itself for the submissive. It is a state of extreme control, at the end of which both a submissive feels satisfied and a domme feels good about the power she has over him.

So, where does this play happen? There are no boundaries as to where this play can happen, however, for a domme and submissive to carry this fetish out in the public, they’d have to really know each other well. This fetish like many others requires a great amount of trust and knowledge of what turns your submissive on and his limits. A knowledge of your submissive comes with time which is why this fetish is more common in long-term relationships.

Communicate, Learn, Explore
If you’ve not explored the Tease and Denial fetish yet, carrying out the fetish is both straightforward and complex. It is straightforward because you have to basically just arouse him and not let him masturbate and it is complex because without knowing your submissive you won’t be able to tell when he’s about to orgasm. From here on, it is up to a domme to choose the actions to arouse her submissive and also choose to not let him orgasm. You can be as experimenting as you’d like. For partners in a new BDSM relationship, venturing into Tease and Denial is hard because a domme wouldn’t know what turns her submissive on and also wouldn’t recognize anybody languages to spot an approaching orgasm.

We’re sure if you’re a domme reading this text, you’ve already started fantasizing about how you’d make your submissive beg to let him masturbate. Communicate with your partner that you would love to try this fetish with him. Let him learn about this fetish of yours and get back at you. If he has questions, answer them with clarity after which you both can basically go wherever your imagination takes you. BDSM is all about experimenting and pushing your limits which is why for couples in a BDSM relationship sky is the limit!