Bondage, cages, and handcuffs are loved by many in the kink world. The BDSM relationship is about feeling connected with your partner at all times, and the responsibility of taking care of your unique d/s dynamic is even better when either one of you is away. Once you know you are going to be a part of a BDSM relationship, deciding whether it will be lifestyle thing or your BDSM relationship will remain limited to an hour or two-hour sessions is critical in deciding how both the submissive and dominant will take things forward. For a submissive to function properly in their define role when their dominant is away, it is important that they feel connected to one another. Regardless of if they are miles apart, feeling that they are part of the dynamic will make them feel connected and closer.

If you have ever wondered how a submissive can exercise control when away, we are here to tell you that this is why a BDSM relationship encompasses activities as tools such as bondage, cages, handcuffs and more. Activities that make a submissive feel that have the challenge to overcome even when their dominant is away is essential to making him feel connected. Practicing activities such as orgasm denial takes a high level of self-discipline and helps submissive prove to their dominant that they care about the relationship and its rules. That even with no one looking they are still following orders. This seems very exciting but it also takes a lot of work from both partners. Here are some ideas for a dominant and submissive to keep the fun alive when one of both stays away for longer periods of time.

Cage Fetish
Cage fetish is advanced form bondage and simply means when a dominant leaves their submissive in human cages. You might not have heard of them but these cages are now more mainstream than ever with public dungeons and other public BDSM spaces incorporating cage play in their space. This is for when the dominant plans to leave their submissive for a few hours. However, when you do leave your submissive in a cage, make sure that they do have something with them to help them communicate with you. This can also help build immense anticipation for when the dominant is finally back. However, like all other BDSM activities, it is important to negotiate and be clear on terms.

Handcuffs
Handcuffs may seem very mainstream since we all have seen the popular media embracing this fetish in a lot of films and dramas, however, if you get creative you’ll be surprised at the extent of variety handcuffs can still offer. A dominant can leave their submissive handcuffed while out with friends and a little verbal humiliation to the equation before leaving home to get their submissive’s emotions worked up. Knowing that a submissive can’t do anything and is at home waiting for their dominant to return is one of the best ways of showing your dominant the level of submission you can exercise for them. This works best for submissives who love to prove a point to their dominant every now and then.

Orgasm Control
Amping up the control factor in BDSM relationship, orgasm control is ultimate! Apparent from the name, orgasm control means relinquishing all control of your arousal and let the dominant decide when you orgasm. Some devices and toys can let a dominant tease you even when they have left you restrained throughout the day. Even when far away, the submissive can feel their dominant’s control over them, something they always crave for. Orgasm control, under the right circumstances, will always leave both the submissive and dominant wanting for more.

Although it is ideal to practice BDSM activities together, a submissive and dominant can definitely do a lot of stuff to keep each other on their toes even when away. However, doing this will take the utmost level of trust and effort.