Dating a dominant woman and serving a Domme can be one of the most fulfilling experiences for any submissive, however, it is sad that when presented with the opportunity, many just don’t know what to do. An outsider would feel that the role of any submissive in a BDSM relationship should be clear as day, however, it is not that simple. Being a submissive, in all its entirety, means delegating all of your control to someone else and while that is the gist of it, it takes a lot of mental and physical effort to do that. Submissives should also keep in mind that their dommes do not expect them to be doormats but have feelings and needs of their own. A submissive who is serving without any purpose is easy to spot. A real Domme would always prefer a submissive who knows how to worship her properly. Someone who knows their worth and is not looking to be abused but actually serve.

Submissives Aren’t Perfect
As a matter of fact, no one is perfect. We all have a diverse set of chores to carry out every day; responsibilities and duties of our own. Submissives are human beings after all, and it can be hard to focus when they are tired or stressed. However, the real test comes when a submissive has to get in a certain way and abide by rules when the Domme is not there. A great submissive should add ease to his and bring ease to their Domme’s life. They need to know what their Dominatrix needs and carry out those tasks with absolute perfection because she expects nothing less. Once you know what you want to be with a dominant woman, the next step is worshiping her properly. Here’s how you can do that.

Letting Go
The best that can happen to a BDSM relationship is a submissive that knows how to let go. To let go of everything, all control and themselves and delegate their power to another human. Gladly accept the fact that for a certain period of time, you are going to owned and controlled by someone else and all you can do is trust them. You will have no will of your own and the only choice would be to accept and act. To accept the gift of domination, if you will! Things will start slow if you are inexperienced and you might have trouble accepting this whole other side of yours, however, a great dominant woman will not let you feel that way. Understand that you will need time to trust another person completely and that if they try to help you through the process you should accept it.

Respect Yourself
When a submissive lets go of control it puts their mistress into the control seat, which is a great position to be in, however, it is also one with which comes great responsibility. She has to take care of the person who trusts her and not let power be confused with taking advantage and abuse. However, a submissive who is a doormat can make things worse. As a submissive, you should understand that BDSM relationships are built on respect and trust. Even when giving control away, you should exercise power in some departments. Power in letting them know that your needs matter.

You are the first person who is responsible for taking care of yourself. Retaining self-control will in-turn make you a more disciplined and better submissive. It will make you more responsive towards your submissive’s demands and improve the d/s dynamic amongst you and your partner.

Offer Something Unique
Have you ever thought why BDSM is so exciting? It is so because BDSM is way more exciting than your everyday sex. However, even BDSM can become boring with time. With time you and your Domme and can fall into a routine and forget that BDSM relationships are all about embarking on a sexual journey and crossing new limits every now and then. Your Dominatrix will look to you for if you are ready to take on a new challenge and that is where you should not disappoint her. Taking on new challenges is essential to keeping the spark alive in BDSM relationships.

Try and bring something new to the table every now and then. Submit a little more, take the next step you know your Domme expects you do or show them something you want to copy and try from the internet. It will make them feel you are the right BDSM partner for them. Such small gestures are not only helpful in adding existing stuff to your BDSM relationship but also allow you to serve your Dominatrix in a better way.

Emotional Control
Controlling emotions is one of the most important factors in having a long-term BDSM relationship and worshipping your mistress properly. As a submissive, you will be going through a lot of stuff in your individual life. The key to a great BDSM relationship is to control when miscellaneous emotions try to get in your way and provoke you to react in front of them. Treat with respect even when you don’t feel like it. Protocols and terms exist for a reason, always abide by them.