The world of domination and BDSM has so many different dynamics and not every one of them applies to each couple. This is why, when involved in the BDSM world, what matters more than acting out a certain activity is how the act is conducted; the psychology and mindset motivating that particular action. Domination can range from anything to everything as long as both the submissive and dominant are onboard. However, both the partners do need to define their comfort zone before beginning. BDSM can be a 1-hour session in a dungeon or giving your submissive humiliating tasks and orders and ruling the household. BDSM is about finding a way to crossing limits without indulging in abusive practices and also getting out of the physical submission now and then to explore the realms of what’s more in the d/s world. This takes trust and responsibility from both partners to set boundaries and limits because when trust is broken in a BDSM relationship, there’s no turning back.

Keep Them In Mind
Not all submissives are the same and this is something that may sound simple but should be remembered at all times. Every submissive will be open to a certain set of ideas and will have their limits. While BDSM may seem like taking control and being hands-on with the experience, it is, however, not at all about being physical all the time. If you are a sub and domme living together and you have had those 1-2 hours long scene, you’d be left wondering what to next? This is where other kinds of domination such as giving your submissive humiliating tasks and orders come in. To give you a better idea of what this might encompass, let’s take a look at some examples of some sexual and non-sexual tasks to keep the submissive coming back to you.

To-Do Lists
As obvious from the name, to-do lists would mean the dominant making a list of chores for their submissive to carry out daily. This will leave them planning their day accordingly and feeling involved in the submissive dynamic all day. They will feel they are serving their submissive and accomplishing what the Dom commands, even if you aren’t present at that time. The submissive feels great after crossing each item off the list and the dom feels like he is the true master of the household.

To make things exciting, you could ask them to complete certain tasks in a given time frame and penalize them if not completed. This will bring even more excitement to the whole scenario and will feel more accomplished after completing these tasks and will add flavor to the daily to-do lists, keeping them from being routine.

Tease Through the Day
A simple and classic exercise, but being able to exercise a load of emotions in both the submissive and the dominant, tease throughout the day means you could ask your submissive to keep sending you your favorite parts of their body, regardless of where you are. If your submissive is at work or somewhere out, you can ask them to take a quick trip to the bathroom for naughty playtime with you and humiliate them as you will when they are against time and several other pressures. Imagine them in their washroom, and have no choice but to comply.

Narrate You the Next Scene
This will fit particularly well into your BDSM routine if your submissive is the creative type. Storytelling has always been a great art. A dominant could order their submissive to either let them know how they felt with each act in your last scene or what they think of when you touched at a certain part or parts of their body. To make them feel even more involved, you could ask your submissive to paint you a picture of all the erotic things they want to be incorporated in your next BDSM routine.

Sexual Humiliation
As a dominant, you could also ask your submissive to experience a sexual climax alone and report back. This could be anything ranging from orgasm denial to more extreme forms of humiliation such as remaining in a cage for extended periods. You could also ask them to experiment with themselves on something they saw on the internet and report back with how it felt. If you like what they did you could then order then to keep the habit/act or get it removed from their lifestyle if it is something you wouldn’t want them to practice, even if they like it.

Edging
A more extreme form of humiliation is edging which means bringing your submissive to the edge of them having an orgasm and then denying them that opportunity. This may make them feel helpless at first, but will soon after feel being at the mercy of their master. Stopping just because you have asked them to stop might make them feel degraded; however, they will stop, not just for the sake of it but for pleasing their dominant. You can make them edge as many times as you want before finally letting them orgasm.

Silence!
Being able to express makes up for how we communicate our feelings to others and hence voice is closely attached to anyone’s persona. As a dominant, you could deny your submissive of voice and ask them to not speak until you want them to. This humiliation technique can be extremely powerful when exercised for longer periods and can even be made part of any kinky scene or be extended out of the bedroom as well.