As they say, there’s no language of love…and sex! These are universal feelings or activities that surpass the shackles of culture, community and language. However, could disciplining your submissive in a foreign language have a different impact that routine and actually become a sexy turn on?
Linguistics has a major role to play in our everyday routine and conversation. However, does speaking another language in bed affect our sexual persona? Language has a lot to do with culture, but, when considering a BDSM engagement, values don’t matter. Despite this, submissives who have been with domes who love giving orders in a foreign language say that a second language does surprisingly seem more assertive. This is because how we say words impacts how others react to them and speaking a foreign language does actually change our erotic personalities.
BDSM & Foreign Language
BDSM is all about delving into the unknown. For instance, when a submissive is blindfolded, they don’t know what’s coming next. Foreign languages are also very much unknown territory. Moreover, we all know how people in the BDSM dynamic tend to sway away from their routine selves to become an obedient slave or an assertive dominant for their BDSM partner. Rich men, who would generally not be answerable to a lot of people in their day to day, love bending down to their knees when in a dungeon. Similarly, women who would take orders from seniors at their day-job all day would come home only to transform themselves into leather-clad dommes.
BDSM and having multiple personalities have so much to do with each other and speaking a foreign language adds to this personality shift. We all have a knack for the unknown. Imagine you being blindfolded and your dominant telling you what they’re going to do next. You wouldn’t understand a word, but the knowledge that an action and at the same time not knowing what it is will make your anticipation levels spike right up to the ceiling!
Out in the Open
BDSM relationships are not all about dark rooms and chains. There are thousands of couples who have accepted BDSM as a lifestyle rather than a few hour activity. Living as a BDSM lifestyle couple means going out together and doing all the stuff normal people would do in a relationship. And this is where having a second language could come in as a handy tool. As a dominant, you could say whatever to your sub without anyone else knowing of what it was that you talked about.
Imagine you have friends over at your place, you lean over to your submissive and give them an order to go take a sexy selfie for you in the restroom. Saying this out loud but in another language is riskier but safe at the same time, something that happens a lot with other BDSM activities as well. BDSM is careful risk management after all.
Routine is Boring
Once you have been with someone long enough things tend to get boring. Although BDSM is already exiting and seldom gets mundane because there’s a lot to experiment with, having a new phrase to say in the bedroom always helps break the routine. How about speaking a whole new language instead!? Imaging your dominant started screaming the same phrases in another language. This would definitely help add a new, never known before aspect to your BDSM scene and help spice it up.
