A major form of edge play, the choking fetish refers to blocking off the windpipe entirely for a little while. The time duration is subjective for every submissive as everyone has their limit in BDSM. When it comes to choking and the submissive enjoying the kink, there is just no safe way to choke another individual. This is why extreme care has to be taken by the submissive. Pushing your submissive to the last limit can be extremely arousing and satisfying for both the submissive and the domme. Any kind of edge play can help the dominant reinforce their control in a d/s dynamic. However, it is of profound importance that while practice an act as risky as choking, a safe word is in place and other important precautions be taken. Only doing so can help you have fun with choking and take your BDSM sexual exploration to the next level.

The Excitement of Edge Play
Edge Play can comprise of any BDSM activity that happens with the consent of both partners but can take the submissive to the edge of their limit and stopping at the edge. Just like any other BDSM activity, scene or relationship, desires, needs, and boundaries need to be set before embarking on the existing journey of exploring edge play. What is acceptable for one might not be the same for another which is why this needs to be sorted from the outset.

Edge Play is all about taking your partner to the edge of their limit but not crossing the limit. In addition to choking, this may include tools as extreme as knives and blades. BDSM is no child’s play and every submissive has their limit, however, when practiced safely, the adrenaline rush that edge play generates is unmatchable.

The Pleasures of Breath Play
There is no reason why one would enjoy impact play, edge play or any other BDSM form. However, if we were dig deep and jot down one scientific reason for why Submissives enjoy choking, it would be the rush of oxygen released to the windpipes after blockage for a short time. BDSM activities may be physical, but they do have a strong psychological side to them as well. For a submissive, giving control to someone else is directly proportional to feel liberated. For a dominant, the sight of their submissive being at their mercy is everything they could ask for. Allowing your dominant to choke you tells them that you trust them with your life. Dommes love this extreme level of control on their submissive which in turn motivates them to be more responsible and caring towards their submissives and his/her needs.

Safe & Sane
Choking can bring extreme joy to a BDSM relationship; it can also bring extreme risk! This is why whenever BDSM partners begin to embark on the exciting journey of edge play, especially choking, a few important factors have to be taken care of.

Safeword works most of the time when considering ways to let your dominant know you’d like them to stop. However, since choking is an activity that could hamper your ability to speak, deciding on safe action is required. For instance, three taps on the surface beneath you could mean it’s time the domme stopped choking you. For the dominant, it is essential to know that the front of the neck is a no-go area when choking. Instead, applying pressure to the sides is advised. Moreover, since choking or any edge play is a high-risk activity, it is advised against being intoxicated before starting a BDSM scene.

How To Start…
If you are someone who has never experienced choking as a fetish before, don’t worry. Once you have decided this is a fetish you would like to incorporate in your d/s dynamic, talk to your partner and take them in confidence. Educate yourselves and see if this is something you could both reach an agreement on. Since both or one of you will be a novice, it is important for a dominant to observe the reactions of their submissive to look for hints. Looking for subtle gestures or changes in expressions will let you know if your submissive wants you to go harder or not. Once you think you have perfected choking with bare hands, you could then talk about promoting yourselves to choking with toys, tapes and more.

Safety Comes First
The BDSM is a vast world and every submissive and dominant has different levels. Any BDSM activity can range from mild to extreme depending upon the level a submissive and dominant are at. For a BDSM activity to be perfect, all it requires is the consent of both parties. Consent ensures safety and being safe in a BDSM scene helps you open yourself a bit more once you are together the next time. It is also important to know each limit’s so you can assess risks easily, know of any medical conditions and prioritize the submissive’s safety and each other’s comfort accordingly. Once you are past this stage of establishing boundaries and familiarizing yourself with edge play, choking can be extremely liberating, satisfying and rewarding BDSM act.