Since you are here, we are assuming you, by now know who a submissive is; someone who relinquishes all control to be governed by another individual, their dominant. Serving your master as a submissive is a lifestyle, however, being a submissive can be both complicated and simple at the same time. The determination of whether or not can you become a better submissive for your dominant daddy comes from your knowledge of the subject. Every dominant is different than the previous one, which is why at times some of the experienced submissives can find it hard to arrive at a starting point to begin their BDSM relationship from. BDSM relationships can, at times, have you wondering whether you are doing things the right way and whether there is more to being a submissive?

What we know is that being a submissive or dominant in a BDSM relationship is extremely fulfilling at the end of the day. We all can feel stranded and not knowing what to do anymore. Although your dominant will be taking most of the decisions for you, being a submissive can be challenging if you don’t know what you’re doing. As a submissive, you will be involved in more emotional, physical and mental exercises than you know, which is why it is important to know how to become a submissive your dominant daddy always craves more of.

The BDSM Ocean & You
BDSM is vast, so vast that you’d, more often than not, have so many things to do you’ll not know what to pick or leave. Once you have learned the basics of submission, your next tasks should be finding your place in the BDSM ocean. From an activity as simpler as spanking to more extreme forms of submission such as trampling, finding your step on the BDSM ladder is important when figuring out how to become a great submissive.

Some want BDSM to remain only a minor part of their life with them opting for taking out time for a few hours of BDSM play out of their weekly routine. Others tend to do the same daily, and then come those who have chosen BDSM as their lifestyle. These are people who have decided that they want BDSM to remain a constant part of their life and would want to give all their control to their dominant. However, if you are just starting out in the BDSM world, we’d recommend you to start slow and build it up from there. BDSM is all about sexual experimentation, however, it is of no use if you aren’t ready.

Choosing a Great Dominant
One can’t become a good submissive if they don’t have the support of a great dominant daddy. As a novice, your first step towards becoming a good submissive would be choosing a dominant for yourself. Determine your needs and wants as a submissive, because who you want as your dominant will eventually stem from your desires as a sub. BDSM is mostly sexual, at least what the mainstream media has us believing. However, when choosing a dominant, the smart thing to do is looking for one who connects with you not only sexually but mentally as well. When you find a dominant you can respect, you wouldn’t find yourself forced to submit to his will, instead, the submission will become much more easier as you’d be more willing to submit to a man you respect.

Define Boundaries
As mentioned earlier, BDSM is vast! However, you don’t have to compel yourself to do everything there is. Granted that the dominant has a lot of control over what you do, but a submissive always has their say as well. The question of your desires and needs may not occur during a BDSM scene as it does for your dominant, however, outside of the dungeon you can always talk about your boundaries and comfort zone as a submissive.

BDSM relationships are built on trust and can only last if they are mutually beneficial. BDSM will penetrate your comfort zone for sure because the d/s dynamic is there to test your limits, however, you need to act a certain way just because another submissive has added an activity to their scene. Define your boundaries, and exercise that safe word if/when needed!

Go All In
Giving your all may seem like a given when in a d/s relationship, yet many of us neglect this when in a BDSM relationship. The BDSM dynamic is not all about giving what you are comfortable in giving, but also take steps out of your comfort zone and offering yourself to your dominant daddy. If a dominant knows you inside out, he will be in a better position to make you feel involved and safer. By letting him know of yourself, you are not only empowering him but your relationship as well.

Communicate
Communication is an integral part of any relationship, but it is even more crucial when in a BDSM relationship. It is of profound importance that the dominant and submissive trust each other. It is also the responsibility of the submissive to not feel shy about discussing her needs or disclosing any threats to her safety. If as a submissive, you don’t share if you feel threatened, it could easily harm yourself and your d/s dynamic. The absence or presence of honest communication with your dominant will determine if you enjoy your BDSM encounters with him or not. It could help you both determine if you share the same fantasies and any limits.

Respect and More Respect
Whatever the issue, a dominant expects that her submissive always approach her with respect. Disagreements are part of any relationship, however, they shouldn’t make you neglect the fact that you should be respecting your daddy at all times. We are humans, and it can be difficult to be the same respecting self at times, however, when the dominant sees that whatever happens your respect for him does not waver, he will definitely see that and reward you. He will say that you have not only given him your all but also respect him, and focus on giving you back.