Do feel aroused when your domme says you need to be punished for your bad behaviour? That means you crave control and are perfectly fine with your domme conditioning you; you are a perfect submissive. While any person’s hand can act as a spanking tool, there is a huge world of toys out there you can spice up your BDSM relationship with. These toys bring new sensations with them and even watching your dominatrix holding a toy can turn a submissive on. Each toy has its own skillset a domme needs to master and each one of them brings new experiences the domme and submissive can experience together. Out this extensive toy collection at your domme’s disposal, there are some that are extremely impactful.

Cane
When you mention cane to a submissive, he can have two very different reactions. He will either love it or hate it; such is the impact of this toy. The cane can be made of bamboo or plastic and comes in many lengths. A cane causes a high impact at a very specific location. If your submissive is sensitive make sure you mix it up other toys that aren’t this hard-hitting. For anyone trying it out for the first time in their BDSM relationship, we’d advise you to start slow and build the intensity with time.

Crop
Crop is a mixture of sorts of the cane and the paddle. It is known for its versatile use since its tip can be used for mild to light to mild spanking and the rod of the crop can be used as a cane. The flexibility and material of the crop matter a lot so choose one carefully, keeping in mind the impact you want to leave on your submissive. Experiment with its length and flexibility to determine what works best for you and your submissive.

Slapper
If you are a domme who likes a good hard spanking but your submissive is a newbie you wouldn’t be able to tolerate that much of pain, the slapper is the toy for you. It is made of multiple pieces of material which, upon hitting, come together and make a really loud noise. While the sound is very loud, the actual impact isn’t that painful; which works for both the domme and a novice submissive. Experiment with different angles and intensity to find out which makes the most noise.

Toys are fun and can keep your BDSM play time interesting but toys such as canes and crops can inflict physical injuries if the submissive and domme do not communicate well. Come up with safe-words and gestures so your submissive and you can enjoy these toys without any unnecessary pressure and worries.